My feelings of pity are usually directed at myself. I begin to feel sorry for myself, accept myself as a poor loser, I regret past mistakes: somewhere I said the wrong thing, did the wrong thing, but I could have done it differently. I feel sorry for myself because I cannot immediately change myself, other people, or circumstances in life. This feeling completely fills me and at the same time depresses me. Fatigue appears in the body, drowsiness, a desire to sleep, indifference arises, there is no desire to do anything, everything is in vain. I can sit down to play computer games, watch TV, the Internet, and this is all for a long time and until I get a headache. As a result, I begin to feel even worse and more disgusting. People who at such moments try to tell me something or ask me to do something, receive my aggression, irritation and anger in response, and I begin to resist in this way. However, after becoming familiar with my pity, I learned the truth that the person who lives with self-pity lives in the past, not in the present. He has no plans, no goals for the future, and if he has, they are foggy and vague. Therefore, I tell myself: “Stop! It's time to pull yourself together. You already understand what this pity does to you and where it leads. You yourself are tired of all this. Let's move forward and take small steps! You are not a blind kitten! You know exactly what you need to do!” Work of a training participant. Gutyar Svetlana Vladimirovna.http://raduga-art.blogspot.ru/