Life crises and access to another level of development Author’s website: http://www.anna-antre.ru/ When we feel bad and we feel lonely. When the light goes out in life ahead and you have no strength to move on, and life circumstances fall out of the blue and you don’t even have time to track them. It is at such a moment that we overcome a life crisis. Crises can be different: age-related, psychological, existential, but the essence of all crises is the same - we no longer want to live as before and want to change the usual course of events, the environment, sometimes our whole life. The most powerful crises are associated with reassessment of values ​​and reaching a different level of development, and this is always painful. An unexpected change of place of residence, the birth of a new child, starting a new job, a change of environment, retirement - all these crises create resistance. We resist with all our fibers of soul the arrival of something new into our reality. However, despite the resistance, the choice has often already been made, which means we just have to accept the situation. Stop fighting her. Fighting is generally ineffective, fighting is only appropriate against one’s own demons, against beliefs that destroy us from the inside, and fighting against the external circumstances that the Universe sends to us makes no sense. We are just grains of sand in the endless cycle of life. Stop. Look around and see that the choice has already been made, understand that this particular choice was the best if it can no longer be changed. And then it’s worth showing the wisdom of acceptance. Acceptance of exactly the situation that is painful for us. Why is it so difficult to accept? Because we overestimate our entire life path, and overestimation is a change in the models of perception of the world. New models have not yet been created, and the old ones do not work; it is this vacuum that becomes unbearable and the psyche fails. How to learn to accept new things? Deepak Chopra in his “Book of Secrets” gives several tips for transformation in a crisis, they are universal and applicable to any situation: If all my hard work has not brought me what I wanted, I will look for new inspiration... If I am missing something now, I will discover this in myself... We so often seek understanding and love, it is worth trying to understand yourself and not judge yourself for negative emotions, forgive for what you have done. If my dream did not come true and turned out to be an illusion, it is worth creating a new dream and striving for it. This is the only way to check whether something is real or illusory. If I have lost my center and a sense of confidence in myself and my decision, it’s worth stopping for a while until you find yourself again. I am no longer unsettled by either success or defeat, the flow of life brings both and all this is coming...Then the vector of perception changes from what is accepted to the reality that we choose: I feel inspired, this experience has enriched me infinitely, taught me to appreciate and accept, forgive and love, I feel that everything is in in my world, even sadness enriches me. I see the truth of the path that my soul dictates to me, I thank the Universal mind manifested in everything, everything around enriches and fills me with meaning. It is the state of crisis and suffering that we experience when moving to another level of development that is the principle of the universe, positive Western psychology collapses in the face of failures, it forces a person to ignore sometimes very important life experiences, and, to put it simply, sometimes leads away from development, because no matter how much one would like to to us, in this world there is also a negative aspect of the universe, the law of dualism, it makes us experience crises and revaluation, thanks to which we improve as an eternal entity. Gratitude and acceptance allow us to overcome many things in life, as well as the love for God manifested in each of us, in every event that, it would seem, we do not choose at all. But we choose how to relate to the event and what choice to make within this event. How to think so as not to lose the meaning of life. I know that there is a higher “I” and it leads and guides me. I trust him, I let go of resistance. I at times/