No matter how the classics try to explain love, it still remains an unsolved lady. But one thing is known for sure about her, for example, that she glues two hearts together with a strong foundation, giving them a chance to find a faithful life partner in each other. She brings two lovers together, but, unfortunately, at this point she resigns her powers, handing over the reins rule of the couple itself. And, whatever one may say, love alone is not enough to build a relationship; you will also need a great desire to learn to live in unison and appropriate efforts. However, many couples do without this. The birth of children provides an excellent opportunity to distract from the misunderstanding that inevitably accumulates over the years, the joys of career growth replace the joys of disappearing spiritual intimacy, and the Internet, friends, and sometimes lovers, replaced in an endless kaleidoscope, serve as a good screen hiding the gap growing between two hearts. As a rule, spouses vaguely feel that their marriage is far from ideal, and even sometimes quarrel about this, but usually they do not bring the quarrel to its logical conclusion - reconciliation. A new day just comes on which the child must be taken to school, the mortgage must be paid , to the Ivanovs - to go to a dinner party, and, immersed in worries, the spouses begin to talk again. New grievances, swallowed up on top of old ones, are suppressed by an effort of will, tension is retouched with strained smiles, intimacy is replaced by joint discussions of grocery purchases. And everything would be fine, but it comes the moment that family psychologists call the “empty nest” - the day when the fledgling chicks leave their parents. And here no tricks will help the couple - they will have to look into each other’s eyes, meeting each other again. And, if love has not grown to At this moment in partnership, friendship and spiritual intimacy, then the spouses are forced to face loneliness together. Having spent their lives interacting with the outside world, but without having debugged the intra-pair communication, they suddenly find a stranger next to them. Irreconcilable differences, previously ignored, are exposed, and any possibility of not noticing them disappears. Quarrels become more frequent, irritation increases, and at some point the house of cards called “A Good Family” collapses. Each spouse is faced with a choice - leave, get a new screen (for example, get carried away with grandchildren) or try to do something that they didn’t do many years ago - to really get closer. Each spouse solves this problem for himself, and if he can’t solve it, psychologists can help you.*** I write about the soul, life lessons and how to get out of all sorts of “ass” and into the white lane here