From the author: What is a life strategy for success and how much does it depend on our activity - this is what we are concerned about seriously and for a long time. So is it possible to learn success? You will find answers to these questions in this article. LIFE STRATEGY FOR SUCCESS: HOW TO BUILD IT? Either you are part of the solution, or you are part of the problem. Eldridge Cleaver Human life, especially individual life, is extremely complex. The intensity of life of a modern person is such that he often has no time to think about what he wants from life, how satisfied he is with his life, whether he is living as he planned. Work, affairs, worries about the house, about children acquire power over our lives. Having devoted a good half of our life to satisfying pressing basic needs (food, shelter, clothing, a car - we spend twenty or even thirty years on this), as a rule, in the middle of life we ​​ask ourselves one of the “eternal” questions: is it possible to call is my life successful? And what is success, what is the secret of success, are there laws and rules of success, traps and pitfalls on the path to success, and finally, what is a life strategy for success and how much does it depend on our activity - this is what we are concerned about seriously and for a long time. So is it possible to learn success? Among the fundamental knowledge given to a modern person at school or university, there is practically no knowledge of how to properly build one’s individual life. For many centuries, people have been studying in detail stamens and pistils, the human skeleton and the location of muscles, mathematical formulas and rules of grammar, but they do not receive any knowledge about the role and significance of consciousness and the unconscious, will and responsibility in human life, they do not know the laws by which groups are formed and governed , teams, laws of forming true partnerships both in the family and in business life. It is not possible to understand such a complex topic as what success is without knowledge of psychology. Knowledge of psychology helps a person understand himself, see his individuality, study his character, and understand his own life strategy for achieving success. Let's try to figure out what success depends on and what it is, whether it is possible to characterize such a complex concept. Moving towards this concept, let’s think about what prevents us from being satisfied with the fullness of life. The first difficulty that almost all of us face is how to separate our personal lives from the lives that are under “close control,” be it from parents, bosses at work, colleagues and friends, husbands and wives, and, ultimately, society itself. For many years, an attitude dominated in our minds, according to which we were prescribed: whom to love and hate, to whom to treat in what way, with whom to be friends, whom to study for, whom to bow before, and so on. This attitude has deprived us of our “right” to privacy. The presence of “two responsible” (a person and “someone else”) has formed a double standard in our attitude towards our own lives. On the one hand, we understand that success in life depends on ourselves, on the other hand, there is a personal mechanism of “assigning responsibility”, when a person, removing it from himself, seeks to blame others for his failures, miscalculations, mistakes: parents, others , society, circumstances, superiors, subordinates (“they didn’t give”, “they didn’t create conditions”, “they didn’t provide”, “they didn’t help”, “they didn’t love”). The presence of an externally blaming position is the first sign of a person’s non-acceptance of responsibility for all the events of his own life. The belief that the world around us should and is obliged to give us this or that, if not according to the first, then according to the second requirement, greatly spoils our character, and subsequently our destiny. Another mechanism: a person imitates those around him in everything (in clothes, in lifestyle, habits, etc.), and at the same time he is deeply convinced of his individuality, uniqueness, independence, even originality. This mechanism of self-deception helps a person lead a very active life, achieve external success and satisfaction,but gradually leading to the loss of one’s true self. However, how difficult it is for every person to admit to himself that only you influence your own life, and for this you just need to “look closely at yourself” and be quite self-critical. The great psychologist, philosopher, K.G. Jung said: “...that the most unpleasant encounter in a person’s life is the encounter with himself.” Refusal to be an individual and accept responsibility for every action, every decision, every word is a rejection of yourself. Therefore, the first law of the philosophy of success is that the one who believes in his best qualities, strengths, who is always convinced that he has them, who understands that I am who I am, wins. I am not a doll, not a puppet, I am not the embodiment of someone’s expectations, but the one nature created me to be, I correspond to myself every day. Further, presenting the individual “history” of a person, is it possible to talk about the general patterns of success along the path of life? Speaking about personal life, we are looking for it not in the sphere of free time, not in the sphere of leisure, not in the sphere of family, not in the sphere of achieving the highest professionalism in our field (although, in my opinion, this is a necessary condition, but not a sufficient condition). We also cannot study our personal lives based on the number of books we have read and the information we have mastered. The success of personal life begins with asking questions such as: does a person live in accordance with his needs, does he put up with his dissatisfaction with life, does he have life prospects, how does he connect in his life what he wants, what he can and what he must? In other words, from the point of view of success, the life path of each person has the same “measurement” criteria for all people (it worked out or didn’t work out, satisfied or dissatisfied, happy or unhappy, I live interestingly or uninterestingly, etc.), but the ways of their implementations are purely individual. And from this point of view, the philosophy of success is how satisfied a person is with his life. This is, first of all, a feeling - a complex feeling, not always unambiguous, but always generalized by a successful or unsuccessful, successful or unsuccessful life. When we experience disappointment in one thing, we always console ourselves in another, trying to bring us to some kind of balance. At the same time, we don’t notice that we are only calming ourselves down, driving the feeling of dissatisfaction deeper, instead of revealing the reasons and really changing ourselves. Contentment is a feeling of being true to yourself, of the authenticity of your life. Law two: the only criterion that can be interpreted that your life is successful is satisfaction or dissatisfaction with life, it has many shades depending on the types of people, but this is perhaps the only infallible criterion that can be logically explained. Accordingly, you and I have a great opportunity to move from a spontaneous way of living life to one that we determine ourselves. But the essence of this definition lies in the choice of conditions and direction of life, in the choice of one or another education and profession that would best suit our personal characteristics, desires, abilities, and therefore in building an appropriate life strategy for success. There are several signs of building a life strategy. The first is the choice of a person’s main direction, way of life, determination of its main goals, stages of achievement and their subordination. Often a person's intentions and the counter demands of life create contradictions between what a person wants and what life offers him. The second is solving the contradictions of life, achieving your life goals and plans. Ways to resolve contradictions, the desire to resolve them or get away from them, are special life qualities of the individual (spiritual qualities, as well as responsibility and will), which are developed in the process of life and differ, say, from abilities or character. Thus, success will depend not only on where to apply your strength, but how to demonstratemyself. The third is creativity, or rather, the creative creation of the value of one’s life, the combination of one’s needs with one’s life in the form of its special values. The value of life, consisting of interest, passion, a new search, satisfaction, is a product of a certain way of life, an individual life strategy, determined by the person himself. Observing today's reality, we can say that many people used the opportunity to individually realize themselves. The life of such people has become special and not only in terms of their material security. Today, standards are being implemented in the form of an idea of ​​a successful life leading to material enrichment, and although this is productive in the socio-economic aspect, it cannot be exaggerated. One of the manifestations of personality maturity and a responsible attitude towards one’s life is the ability of a person to determine the “threshold” of satiation, at which a person considers satisfied material needs as one of the conditions of life that helps to realize more important goals. Thus, the third law says - the ability to “switch” one’s life aspirations from material to other values ​​is an indicator that a person has begun to live a personal life and has a much greater chance of achieving success in the form of satisfaction. The famous scientist of the 20th century A. Maslow, studying famous people as “samples” (these were contemporaries, historical figures, scientists, writers, musicians, etc.), he noted that only those who had a strong commitment to their own values, chosen activities, high desire for your goal. And, despite the fact that these people were not perfect and made many mistakes, all of them were characterized by the following traits: acceptance of themselves, others and nature; spontaneity, simplicity, naturalness; focus on the task and not on oneself; more effective perception of reality and consistent relationships with it; some detachment and need for solitude; autonomy, independence of judgment from culture and environment; non-standard thinking and non-stereotypical assessments; experience of spiritual and mystical, not necessarily religious, experiences; a sense of empathy and belonging; deeper interpersonal relationships; democratic values; the habit of not confusing goals and means, good and evil; philosophical sense of humor; great creative resources; the ability to go beyond, for example, private cultural traditions and familiar environments. When talking about success in life, it is always interesting how a person relates to the time in which his life perspective unfolds. This is a person’s manifestation of events in time: past, present, future. Some psychologists argue that it is important to correlate the success of the future with the past, others - from the point of view of its structure (after all, time is the only irreplaceable resource of a person), others - it is important to have a value attitude, that is, to treat time as a special value. Many psychological scientists divide time into three types of perspectives. Psychological perspective is the ability to imagine your future and predict it. Personal perspective is not only seeing the future and readiness for the present, but also the ability to organize it. Life perspective is a set of circumstances and living conditions that, other things being equal, create the individual’s maximum opportunity for optimal advancement in life. Life prospects are not always revealed to those who have a psychological and personal perspective, that is, are able to see the future and have potential, capabilities, and maturity. A person, having a personal perspective in the absence of a developed life position, can quickly exhaust his capabilities and abilities, finding himself in critical periods of life, saturated with difficulties, contradictions, and stress. More often, it opens up to someone who has created a system of optimal supports in the present (i.e., having many.