The purpose of the article is not to describe the standard of femininity, but I would only like to draw attention to the importance of seeing the state of the “inner woman” in everyone. (Yes, yes, in each, this is a separate conversation). So I’m thinking about where to start removing the distortions that have stuck to Femininity. The distortions are not just layered, they have already grown into each other. And I’ll start with the story about Parvati (Shiva’s wife ), aka Kali. Or about Kali, aka Parvati. Plus many other names and other images of Parvati. Severe Kali and gentle Parvati are two principles united in one being. The exiled Parvati (sweet, loving in His service) had to manifest herself in struggle, in battles, she had to fight and win without Him, to be Kali. She could. She became a terrifying, angry, merciless warrior, crushing and smashing (the severed hands of enemies on belt, tongue red with blood). She defeated the demons. In essence, she actualized and saturated her male self, her Animus, with satisfaction. And when the man on the outer plane submitted to Kali, her foot is on him, he lies, when she was satisfied with her masculine power, received recognition for this, she again became white-tender, affectionate, feminine Parvati. Who and what is this story about? She about a woman who will be able to live, make decisions, act, provide for her life herself, when and if necessary. But she remembers that She is a woman, and this is the first thing. She is accepting, loving, materializing life and its beauty. It is characteristic of her, her inner nature, her attitude in life: - not to fall into infantilism, into weakness, into weakness, into uncertainty - to be able to arrange her life independently; - not to get stuck in the image of the one who wins a fight with a man, dominates in relationships with him, hates him, takes revenge on him; - combining everything within herself, go further: allow yourself to live as a woman who has understood both the fact that it is scary to be a Woman and the fact that it is scary to be a Woman annoying, and in many other ways. In cases of “I’m scared,” the girls’ words are heard: “The thought of motherhood scares me. I won’t be able to become a mother. I’m not ready. Not my thing.” In cases of “I’m irritated,” beautiful young women say: “They’re really pissing me off.” the girls are all artificial, with pumped-up lips, with silicone breasts, they will do everything to please their men, as long as their daddies provide for them. Well, they are stupid, weak, weak! “to be a woman”? For starters, you can: - consider fear or irritation as manifestors of contradictions, internal conflict, the fact that something is weighing down with its burden of incomprehensibility. - Do not fight fear or irritation, but accept them and say to them: “Yes” .- You can promise yourself or your fear or your irritation: “Right now I don’t understand your reasons, but give me time, I intend to discover them and decide what to do with them.” - Seeing faithful helpers in fear and irritation is also a step towards accepting yourself and revealing your resource. Fear and irritation will, fortunately, remain until the dump of thoughts becomes understandable and understandable, a clear picture for yourself that controlled me. There are enough women both playing in Kali and stuck in Parvati. If you are happy in these states, then there are no questions. There are women whom life pushes into decisiveness, efficiency, and solving issues of material support for their needs. There are also those who are tired of living in armor (I have an article on this site “Woman in Armor” ").In order to sort through the invisible rubble of hidden, deep, subconscious, limiting, destructive attitudes (thoughts, ideas, codes, programs) and understand what is mine in all this, to see "What am I with all this goodness ", I propose to explore, approach from four sides:1 I am a Person2 I am a Person in a female or male body3 I am a woman, or I am a man4 I am a Person with a blurred gender identity. My message is not about breaking Yourself and become different. It’s about looking at something else in yourself, about yourself and on".