I want to say that any injury divides a person’s life into BEFORE and AFTER. It’s as if some part of you was disconnected and remained there - in this DO. And you move on and everything seems to be ok, but an unpleasant feeling of constant lack of something accompanies you along this path. And, of course, it is easier to look for the missing puzzle outside: be it changing partners or migrating addictions (yes, addictions migrate - shopping to alcohol, alcohol to chemicals, etc.), addiction to money or thrills. And it is not surprising that the puzzle never comes together. Looking where it is dark is not a working strategy. You need to look where you lost it - inside your Self. I used to think that many people get stuck in some moment of the past simply because it was good there. Practice made it clear that it was actually bad there. That is why a person returns there mentally again and again. Even if his stories are only about the good, but precisely about the good at a specific moment, which he reproduces again and again, then there is a high probability that the bad is repressed. Sometimes with humor, sometimes with overly positive memories, there is also ordinary amnesia. Every scar aches from time to time, and so the person unknowingly returns to this pain again, covering it with a band-aid of fake but very desired positive emotions. In my practice, there was a client who, through a session, told me about a trip to a camp. The client was 46. Each time the same story with small new details. In his briefcase he always carried a very valuable item from that time. Of course, it’s strange for an adult man to wear a child’s attribute for 30 years. But not at all for a person who is still trying to cross the watershed of his trauma. When he first came for a consultation, I caught myself thinking that such a stately adult man, but the energy of a 14-year-old teenager. It is not surprising that the last time he attended camp was at the age of 14. I would be grateful for your comments and feedback! Sign up for a consultation 8-926-450-14-74 Subscribe to the telegram channel @aka_4u