Interaction with other people occupy an important place in our lives. We need close people, friends, loved ones. Why does communication with others occupy such a large place in our lives? Communications allow us to satisfy important needs that cannot be satisfied alone. Let's consider them in more detail: 1. Sharing emotions It is much more pleasant to go somewhere in good company than alone. Sharing joy with others increases our enjoyment of the experience. There is an exchange of emotions. In company we can joke, fool around, sing songs, tell stories, play games, dance, comment on what is happening and receive a response. We can talk about something and have a good time. 2. Exchange of information We can get together to resolve some issue. Brainstorm, look for a joint solution to the problem, clarify what we don’t understand. We can learn from each other, share our experiences, or, conversely, ask for help with advice. 3. Support Doing something new together is much easier than deciding to do it alone. Even the simple presence of a supportive person gives us strength. When we talk about what is important to us, and the other person agrees, we feel that we are understood. If we express difficult feelings - we talk about resentment, pain, fear, and the other person is simply present next to us and holds our hand - we we feel accepted. And this is very important for us - to be understood and accepted by others. We feel loved - and this paints our lives with bright colors. We see that we can rely on someone and allow ourselves to take risks. Interactions with other people are not always pleasant. Sometimes we share feelings, but the other cannot share them with us. We can argue until we are hoarse and part ways without solving anything. We can trust someone and be deeply hurt by an answer that devalues ​​our feelings. It is in our hands to choose those with whom we want to communicate more and more deeply, and from whom we will stay away. There are several questions that can be considered in the process of establishing an acceptable distance from another person. Ask yourself: Do I have a sense of community and intimacy with this person, or is the communication dry and superficial? Do I have a feeling that I am understood? Am I able to share my feelings with him? Does the other person share their feelings with me? Do I feel that the other person is sincere with me? The feeling of understanding is born when the expressed feelings have not been ignored. When the partner made it clear that he hears and understands what is happening to the person. And in response, he also expresses some feeling adequate to the situation. There are people for whom feelings are something incomprehensible, akin to elements that it is not clear how to control. Therefore, they try not to show their feelings and ignore the feelings of the other. There is a feeling that you are communicating with a cold wall. The closest you can communicate is with a person with whom you have a feeling of closeness, with whom it is safe to share and you are confident that he will support you if it is emotionally difficult. My book “From a Victim of Circumstances to a Free Person” Download for free!