To learn to recognize emotions, you need to be able to name them and express them verbally. This is one moment. Another moment - every feeling, as a rule, is associated with a certain event, situation. And it is important to understand what caused the emotion. Why? Such knowledge and understanding allows a person to approach what is happening intelligently, makes him more sensitive to stimuli, makes him realize what frightens, confuses, or pleases, inspires. Having learned this important skill, you can convey emotions in another, more thoughtful, socially appropriate way. In the last article, I mentioned several questions that help to understand what situation, event or actions cause certain feelings. They are aimed at realizing what is happening, what is being felt, prompt reflection and offer to plan actions. Questions allow you to expand the range of possible influences, and not react like a volcano to any provocation from people and events. If you discover your feelings in advance, they will most likely appear patterns. For example, you can notice a pattern in the emergence of anger. It may appear on days when it was especially difficult at work or somewhere else. Loved ones become an emotional cushion, a punching bag. This happens without desire. You don’t want to cause pain, ruin your mood, everything happens automatically. How can you express emotions without unnecessary trauma to others and visits to the appropriate services? Questions, clarification of feelings, and a request to your opponent can help here. Let’s say a person constantly breaks promises. Annoying, isn't it? Let's clarify the situation. We say that we are annoyed by this situation, we feel angry, because we perceive this fact as disrespect for ourselves and our agreements. In this regard, it becomes increasingly difficult to believe promises. And as a result, we express a request: “I would like to ask you (you), before promising, to think everything over carefully.” Yes, at first it can be difficult. We are used to cutting from the shoulder, judging from the first word or deed. Ah, he or she didn’t do such and such, didn’t say such and such. He or she is bad (bad). But no one can read minds. Therefore, it is better to explain what is so infuriating and infuriating. Another point. Our thoughts are not the ultimate truth. It is important to acknowledge this and be open with loved ones. It is necessary to tell what your feelings and thoughts are. Don’t forget about respect. Everyone wants to be respected, but for some reason they often forget that others want the same thing. If you don't respect your partner, you're unlikely to get respect from him. And finally, tone. You should not conduct a conversation in a tense, grouchy, dissatisfied, and especially in a raised voice. Remember, before talking, you need to let off steam and cool down. No, you don't need to let off steam on another person. It’s better to do this somewhere on the side - on a walk or in the gym, you can just leave the room (premises). And most importantly, you shouldn’t expect instant results. Expressing emotions is a skill, and every skill needs training. Subscribe to my VKontakte community and get a bonus: the meditative practice “Shamatha”. Calm your mind and find inner peace! https://vk.com/app5898182_-224026628#u=1791044&s=2609310