**Not every relationship where you notice one or more of the signs described below is pathological or abusive. This is a collection of listings for understanding the general picture of the problem of abusive relationships, in this case, emotional violence from a woman to a man. For some it’s news, for others it’s commonplace, but when psychologists say the terrible word “abuse,” they mean not only when a man uses physical violence against his wife, and she “loves and is silent” (one of the most common stories), but also abusive relationships on the part of a woman to a man, a parent’s attitude to children, a boss to a subordinate, a friend to a friend and other options, each of which is worth examining separately. What connects them is their common purpose or meaning - this is power and control of another person, an attempt to take over his mind and subjugate him, so that the victim feels guilty and damaged. This article will examine the side of female violence against a man. I will make a reservation that the very division of rapists and victims by gender may be unfounded, however, in my opinion, the topic of female abuse is raised much less often, because in our society it is considered taboo, because a man “cannot be a victim.” Female abuse is still a hidden form that does not come out to the public because culture does not allow a man to be weak. Most often, female violence does not manifest itself in physical form, but is complemented by it. It is inherent in nature that a woman is more emotional, and accordingly she acts through feelings and emotions: manipulating, blackmailing, suppressing... Abuse on the part of a woman is manifested by the following characteristics: A woman artificially creates inadequate, unpredictable behavior so that the victim experiences a state of constant “danger.” This is similar to the game of a domestic cat, when she has already caught a mouse, but holds it by the tail or gives it the opportunity to run away a little, knowing that this is only a game and she will press it with her paw at any moment, because the mouse is a toy, and only a cat controls the situation. A man, being a toy in the hands of a woman, is in a constant state of stress and does everything possible to please her and not to anger her. An attempt to leave is not included in the game script, so it is almost impossible to do this without help. A woman does not just reshape a man to suit herself, she breaks him, brings him under her “heel” and considers him her convenient property. And if M does not do as she wants, then a series of derogatory phrases fall upon him (“can you even do anything?”, “a normal man wouldn’t do that,” “you can’t do anything without me,” “only I support you”, “you are a bad husband/father/lover”, “you are now unattractive”...), which make you feel guilty, worthless and useless. Unfortunately, such behavior is not stopped by social norms, even if it happens on to the public. Making fun of some qualities of your man, interrupting his opinion, raising your voice at him, public insults, or even using physical violence, such as slapping - all these are manifestations of violence! And each of us has ever seen such scenes. Have you ever had the thought in your head that this is undisguised abuse on the part of a woman, and a man is a victim who needs help, because at home the situation is somewhat worse. Punishment or habitual behavior can be ignoring (refusal of dialogue), manipulation of sex, blackmail, neglect (ignoring the interests of the partner), lies, failure to fulfill promises, betrayal. Gaslighting and devaluation are the friends of a manipulative abuser (“you don’t need much intelligence for this”, “I was just joking”, “you’re just a bore”, “you don’t know how to have fun”, “this is not the behavior of a real man”, “you’re sick”, “ obvious to everyone except you”...). Subordination of the family budget: “his income is the general budget, her income is her personal budget,” while he cannot buy himself anything extra without permission, like a small child or)