I think all psychologists have days or weeks when consultations are on the same topic, almost a carbon copy. Even the names are repeated. This is what happened to me too. In one week, several couples with similar requests, the difference was only in age and length of married life. Therefore, I decided to combine these consultations. All men in these couples work in the IT field. This is a well-paid job that completely absorbs a person. But it has advantages: it generates income, does not require presence at the workplace, which allows you to work on luck. But it requires attention, concentration, constant improvement of skills and great knowledge. Therefore, these men are almost out of this world. They look like very smart, but children. And this man, closer to thirty, gets married. The wife, who previously worked and supported herself, quickly quits and begins to engage in self-realization. She is taking an eyebrow/manicurist course. He studies there for several months, most often by the end of his studies the former fuse has dried up. And she either doesn’t go to work at all, or quickly quits it, under the pretext that “her soul doesn’t sing.” Next are the next courses - designers and so on. And again, “the soul does not lie”, a conflicting team, no clients, “people don’t work for such pennies”, in general, anything to leave work and start studying again. And so on in a circle. The husband tries to reason with his wife, citing fatigue, burnout... But to no avail. What are the reasons for such failures in work and desire to learn? Maybe a person is really so globally unlucky? First of all, in psychological immaturity, infantilism. This behavior is similar to the behavior of a child in search of his own Self. Of course, on the one hand, searching for oneself is very healthy, but sometimes the search becomes for the sake of searching. And this is a long-term event. The woman does not take responsibility. It turns out that when she lived alone, then, willingly or unwillingly, she took responsibility for her life, but when she got married, she transferred it to her husband. This also speaks of the woman’s lack of self-confidence. Her fear of condemnation. This could also be parental instructions “don’t live”, “don’t be successful”. All this can be worked out with a psychologist. You can get an individual consultation by signing up for a consultation at + 7 903 373 36 00 (Whats App or Telegram)