One of the main reasons why a person is stingy with emotions in adulthood is the ban on showing and experiencing emotions in childhood. For example, a child screams or cries, and is constantly pulled back, shamed, or rudely silenced, without understanding the reasons for such behavior and attributing everything to “harmful character.” Either the child has to hide his real feelings, afraid of angering his parents, losing their love and approval, or he becomes “convenient” for the parents, losing his true self. And this happens during childhood, when the psyche is developing and during this period it is necessary to help the child understand and accept the emotions he encounters, teach him to cope with them, be able to withstand them, but not deny/shame/scold, and in no case be offended in response to the child, provoking in him a feeling of guilt, one of the most painful, especially for the child’s psyche .What happens in this case in adulthood:▪ we hold back and accumulate experiences and negative feelings in ourselves▪ we do not give vent to our feelings▪ we cannot or do not know how to talk about our feelings ▪ we do not understand/do not accept the feelings of other people, difficulties in showing empathy ▪ we are unable to withstand both our own and other people’s negative emotions and experiences, we consider them “bad” and unacceptable▪ we do not know how, we are shy, sometimes ashamed to show our feelings, etc. All children throw tantrums. During the period of growing up, they go through various growth crises, when they master new skills and abilities, and go through the process of separation from their parents. This is absolutely normal and we can only be there, contain their emotions and help them live through them. In this way we provide support and lay a good foundation for the development of emotional intelligence in the future. However, the more a person restrains and suppresses his emotions, the more they accumulate, provoke stress, overexcitement, and the more strongly they will explode at some point and can even affect health in the form of psychosomatic diseases, leading to difficulties in communicating with partners/spouses, establishing communications with other people. But what’s great is that it’s never too late to start exploring yourself and any of your manifestations, at this moment a new world opens up before us.