Author: V.G. Pichugin Source: http://nlplife.ru/ The article is useful even for those who don’t need it yet. I don’t know clear and reliable, reasoned and logical reasons why a man should get married. I only have thoughts on this matter, but I think I have found the answer to the question “why?” The article is not for those who have already decided to get ringed and know for sure that they need it, and not for those who simply believe in the bright bonds of marriage. Those who are convinced that there is no need to get married under any circumstances should not read the article. I write for men who reflect, think, and want to know and act consciously, and not emotionally. The most common reasons voiced by men for getting married are: the desire for frequent sex, the belief that you need to have a family, a woman’s insistence (ultimatum: either get married or we’ll separate), out of love, out of stupidity, and, well, “everyone gets married, but am I worse?” whether?". All these arguments are very unconvincing. For example, the desire for frequent sex in marriage is an illusion. While a young man is pursuing a girl and passionately wants her, he thinks that marriage will allow him to do this pleasant thing every day. But, firstly, such a belief is reminiscent of the attitude towards his favorite food, he really loves bananas, but since he does not eat them often, the desire is strong. But then he decides to buy himself 20 kilograms of bananas and eat them. Having swallowed 10-15 pieces, he understands that happiness is not in bananas, but after finishing everything he bought, he realizes that he now hates bananas. Secondly, many women are not at all as passionate in everyday life as in the premarital period; they need sex, but not every day, and under certain conditions. For example, you must remain the same passionate suitor, romantic and without pretensions, otherwise, carnal pleasures may be denied. Thirdly, having “eaten up” with this woman, the man realizes that there are many beautiful and sexually attractive other girls that he has not tried yet, and his wife becomes not as interesting to him in bed as before. Therefore, getting married just for sex is very stupid, this is just an important reason for marriage, but one of many, and far from the main ones. It’s just a belief - you need to start a family - this is a social attitude, instilled by society, maybe by parents, if they have there was a successful and friendly family. On the one hand, this is not the worst social attitude, but it is not a fact that a good family of parents is an absolute guarantee of a successful marriage for a man who grew up in such a family. Building your happiness on the mere belief that you just have to get married because other people have done it well is very short-sighted. All people are different: some are made for family, others are made for scandals and divorce. Therefore, I suspect that belief alone is not enough. Marrying at the insistence of a woman is completely unreasonable. Making a decision under the threat of an ultimatum - get married or I'll leave you (you won't get any more sex) - is not the act of a responsible man. And so, why? Of course, it is very important to know what a woman can give a man in marriage. But if you list the benefits of family life, then there will always be arguments in favor of sex, care, a sense of significance, etc. a man can receive it outside of marriage. Especially if he has a favorite business, money, social status and a head on his shoulders. Women love worthy and prosperous people. That is, the benefits of marrying a specific woman should be understood, but marrying only because of the benefits is a controversial decision. There is another reasoning. You need to get married when, in addition to the benefits of marriage, there is an understanding of what a man can give to a woman, children, and what kind of family he wants to create. To make a conscious and correct decision, it is useful to think about your mission, the meaning of life. What good will remain after you for people? Discoveries, results of something you love, maybe well-bred children, geniuses? What can you tell them? Have something to share? What kind of family relationships will they see? Will they then want to have the same one? Good questions. Having answered them, you can understand why get married? If a man is a master in his)