In order for a child to grow up psychologically healthy, resistant to stress and life’s difficulties, it is important for him to receive careful and attentive treatment from his parents. By the way, when parents do not listen to the child’s opinion , decide for him what is right for him and what is not - this is not a caring attitude. When parents can afford to insult a child, take out their bad mood on him, belittle his merits or ignore them - this is not a caring attitude. When parents allow themselves to discuss their child’s behavior with someone in the presence of the child, this is not a caring attitude. When parents read the child's diaries, check the phone, spy on the child, this is a violation of the child's boundaries. This list can be very long. It is clear that parents usually do things that violate the child's boundaries due to their parental anxiety and fear of losing control. I don’t want to offend anyone, I want to inform, and let everyone draw their own conclusions. A caring attitude is when parents take into account the child’s opinion, at least in matters concerning the child himself. When parents do not insult or humiliate the child, or if they feel that they have crossed boundaries, they can ask for forgiveness. Also, a caring attitude is when they do not devalue the child’s feelings, but treat them with sensitivity and understanding. When a child grows up in an environment where he is not treated with care, where his feelings are ignored, where there is no respect for his personal time and space, he a certain attitude towards oneself is formed. The child gets used to feeling like a victim of circumstances, not significant enough, and, worst of all, may believe that this is how it should be. Children often think that since their parents treat them this way, it is because they, the children, have done something wrong. Mom or dad stopped loving them because they are bad. Children do not understand that parents are just people and can make mistakes, be out of sorts, or have character defects. It is good if there are other adults in the life of such a child who show respect and care for him. Then the child has the opportunity to feel the difference and see that he can be treated more carefully. He has the opportunity, at least situationally, in communication with a caring adult, to notice his value for someone else, if not for his parents. When a person who grew up in conditions of harsh treatment from loved ones becomes an adult, he usually continues to reproduce the behavior of his parents, i.e. .e. cruel to others and to himself. We usually live the way we are used to. Of course, the victim of childhood abuse herself does not always notice how her behavior affects relationships with others and cannot influence this. It turns out to be a vicious circle - a person is cruel to others, those around him disappear from his life or show retaliatory aggression. And it may seem that the world is cruel, that no one is loved, that no one can be trusted, etc. A person unconsciously continues to recreate the relationships in which he lived since childhood. Despair? Impotence? Is it possible to change this? Yes, perhaps it is possible. If a person begins to notice how his behavior affects others and begins to change his behavior. Perhaps when he changes his behavior to a more caring one, other people will begin to treat him with more kindness and consideration. And the vicious circle will open. A lot can be changed in life by working on yourself.