Many of you are well aware of chemical dependencies and the phenomenon of codependency. They know, but they often fall into this trap. An even more difficult situation is when your life partner, relative or friend is in a non-chemical addiction. It’s complicated, but there is a way out of it, and I’ll tell you about it in this article. To make it clearer, non-chemical types of addiction include, for example, dependence on receiving information. Or Internet addiction, which is going to be included in the list of mental illnesses, because its consequences for the brain are comparable to the consequences of alcoholism. Another phenomenon referred to in the title of the article is codependency. In codependency, you find yourself in a state of some kind of inclusion in the state of the dependent person, you cannot disconnect from him/her. And in a certain sense, you become dependent with him. But not on what he/she is dependent on, but on his/her condition. The state in which a dependent person is. It is difficult to get out of codependency. Especially if the subject of such non-chemical dependence of a person from your environment becomes something conditionally approved by society. For example, work in case of workaholism. Or, as mentioned earlier - obtaining information, including through various courses. Moreover, now various training courses are becoming more and more popular. Especially those that promote the idea of ​​​​the possibility of acquiring a certain skill during the course. The problem here is that in reality it is impossible to learn a skill quickly. You can only get some information quickly. In order for this or that skill to become yours, you need time and experience in using this skill in your life. This is why, for example, psychoanalysis is often lengthy. Because if you are learning a new skill (in the case of psychoanalysis, this is the skill of mental self-regulation), then in order for this skill to be well mastered by you, it takes time for you to train in using it in your life. And only then does this skill become yours. To get out of addiction or codependency, you must first recognize it. How do you know if you are addicted or codependent? A dependent person, firstly, begins to reduce time for his other life needs, displacing them with the need associated with the object of dependence. Let’s take the study already mentioned above as an example. You start taking more and more different courses. There is practically no time left for anything else: neither for family, nor for personal life, nor for any other entertainment. You need more and more information. If you used to get some pleasure from learning something new, then the further you go, the more information you need in order to get this pleasure. Then it may just turn into a habit for you. You cease to understand why you need all this at all. But you can’t live without a new piece of information. The second sign is a loss of expediency. That is, you stop absorbing information and do not have time to apply it in your life. She lies like a dead weight. Moreover, sometimes you cannot even fully perceive the information itself; your brain switches off from the overabundance. And you can’t remember what you read or what you listened to a couple of minutes ago... I’ll repeat these two signs once again: 1) reduction of time and space for other life needs and 2) low performance in activities related to the object of addiction. Their presence indicates that you are addicted. If you are a person prone to codependency, then these same signs will help you understand that your friend or your life partner is dependent. What other points relate to codependency? If you are codependent, your efforts in the relationship will not feel valued. That is, you will constantly feel that you are not doing enough. That you want to somehow help a person, even in his hobbies, to somehow improve your relationship. But that's it!