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A lot has already been said about the importance of ending relationships. It is known that if previous relationships are not adequately completed, they are transferred to the next relationship, and the problems that a person encountered in previous relationships again become relevant, and appear in the next relationship in a more “burdened” version. About ways to end relationships and parting a lot has already been written here about the past. I will briefly list the signs by which you can determine the completion of a relationship and readiness to start another: A feeling of calm that arises when thinking about your ex-partner; Your thoughts themselves, without any coercion or persuasion of yourself, rush into the future. Do you suddenly find yourself starting to dream about someone else, about meeting again, and fantasizing about “what will my next partner be like?” After a breakup, you don’t have negative generalizing attitudes like “all men need one thing”, “men are cowards and are afraid of serious relationships”, “women are hysterical and each in their own way blows a man’s mind”, “a woman does nothing but spoil a man’s nerves”, etc. The feeling that you are tied with a rope that pulls you back disappears, to the past, to your ex-partner. You are free from feelings of guilt for your actions in past relationships, but at the same time you understand your responsibility for these actions, and also understand what your behavior led to the separation; You have the strength and energy to engage in everyday activities; There is a place in your life for the pleasure that you give yourself. All of the above suggests that the energy that was previously directed into your relationship has been exhausted, and now you can direct it to something else. I would also like to note that You cannot forcefully end a relationship. You cannot “force yourself not to think about”, hide from your own experiences, pain, anger and other negative feelings associated with the end of a relationship. You cannot forcibly switch yourself to another relationship (as a rule, in this case, nothing good comes from a new relationship). Ending a relationship is a process that takes time and quite intense internal work. It does not need to be pushed, just as there is no need to push or slow down the flow of a river. This process needs to be lived (a lot has been written about this here, I will not repeat it). But the true completion of a relationship brings lightness, liberation, a place for the new and unknown, as well as greater wisdom and maturity that we did not previously possess.