Have you ever asked yourself questions of this kind: - Why did I fall in love or fell in love with this particular person? - Why are we together now or, conversely, broke up? In general, psychologists have many hypotheses on this matter, but, in my opinion, all explanations do not play any role, because there are things that today remain a mystery to humanity. One of them is the process of the emergence and formation of a feeling of love in the human soul. At the same time, naturally, the greatest interest is shown precisely in the emergence of love between a man and a woman... Is there an answer? Alas and ah... So far, people have not comprehended this great secret of the creation of love, because love for a woman and the desire to destroy humanity cannot simultaneously live in one heart... Before starting to think about the emergence of love between a man and a woman, I will immediately clarify that I share the concepts of falling in love and love . By being in love I mean an uncritical, idealized attitude toward a person of the opposite sex, which has a sexual orientation: “he’s from a fairy tale,” “the best,” “I adore,” “I always want to see,” “I fly,” “I’m not afraid of anything,” “I can do anything.” "etc. Love is already very serious, it is a relationship that requires constant spiritual work from a person. Since all cultural works are based precisely on falling in love, and fairy tales end with a wedding, here I will also talk about how the state of falling in love arises, which soon inevitably flows into a variety of relationships. The first group of theories of the emergence of love is biological. Biochemical and physiological processes in the human body play a role here. Although, undoubtedly, there is childhood love and love in old age, here we are primarily talking about the fact that the soil for falling in love is most ready in adolescence, when the peak of sexual activity occurs in the body, thanks to hormonal and physiological changes. This is where stories of crazy, and often tragic, love begin, since parents of children and society impose a ban on sexual relations precisely when there is the most acute biological need for it. But this is a topic for other thoughts... The second group of theories is of psychological origin. So, why are we drawn to one person and completely indifferent to another? Each of us has in our subconscious a certain image of a partner whom we would like to see next to us. Sometimes the subconscious image of your partner can be clearly recognized, sometimes not. This image is built on the basis of the image of the parents. The girl wants her boyfriend to be “like dad,” and often even compares him to his father. The boy chooses a girl who looks like his mother. What image parameters should match? The first is, of course, appearance. If you compare the appearance of all your partners with whom you have had a long-term relationship, you will find some similarities in appearance, both between them and similarities with your parents. The second parameter, although biochemical, is also based on the image of the parents. These, again, are conscious and unconscious odors of a person: both body and clothing. The smell of skin can resemble the smell of a mother’s body, perfumes can also coincide in their line, the house where this person lives can also carry smells familiar from childhood. The third, and perhaps the most important characteristic of a person’s choice is his manner of behavior. If you remember your parents, then, for sure, one of them was the main one, the main decision-maker in the family, the leader. And the second is a follower, subordinate. We choose as a partner a person with the behavior of a parent of the opposite sex. If one of the parents drank in the family, then you are likely to marry an alcoholic if your father drank. Or choose a woman as your wife who will take care of you and control you all your life. The only way to get away from this stereotype of choosing a partner is to