From the author: “For an hour now I’ve been watching through the window at my little neighbor in the house opposite. The man is clearly getting ready for school. He sits, talks with toys, puts notebooks in his backpack and cries...” Every year, from mid-September to early October, an endless line of parents and children begin to see a psychologist. This turbulent flow, as a rule, has one single main reason - the child’s unpreparedness for schooling. Most often, this is psychological readiness, which parents pay the least attention to. A child’s psychological readiness for schooling, as we know, has nothing to do with what the child can do (read, write), but precisely what the child cannot do , will become a problem for him, for example, to force himself to do what is necessary, I don’t want something that turns out badly, etc. All parents unanimously say that he went to kindergarten, attended classes, reads, writes, teachers praised, but... The teacher complains that he is distracted, plays in class, shouts and does much more that does not fit into the framework of school teaching. Parents behave differently from such an attitude towards their child, who accuses the teacher of bias who begins to demand from the child something that he cannot fulfill, he, in turn, begins to quietly or not very quietly express his protest to what is happening, and, as the crown of everything, the parents decide to turn to a psychologist. In the recent past, many parents believed that turning to a psychologist is either signing a sentence for your child, or they regarded it as a punishment for him: “If you behave like this, I will take you to a psychologist.” Such visits to a psychologist were not uncommon in my practice. Imagine the surprise of the parents when for the first time, I emphasize, for the first time, they heard that the child was not doing it out of spite, did not want to “piss off” anyone, that the reason for his “ugly” behavior is that some of his mental processes are not sufficiently formed, and because of this, he cannot be what everyone wants to see him. Now parents, most often, want to understand what is happening, what are the reasons and how to fix it. And everything would be fine, if not for one “but”... in order to correct or help the child “mature”, a lot of effort is needed, both on the part of the child and on the part of the parents. But as often happens, by the time school starts, the child is so busy that, alas, there is no time left for classes with a psychologist or neuropsychologist. Parents choose dancing, language learning, various classes and continue to fight with the child about his total inattention. , restlessness, “stupid” mistakes and behavior at school. The result is always the same - a decrease in motivation for schooling, loss of trust in each other, the formation of neurotic reactions and school neuroses. The next meeting with a psychologist occurs at the end of the second or third grade, when, according to teachers and parents, the child does not want to study and is lazy , does not listen, he is only interested in the computer, tablet and phone. And a lot could have been different!