Every woman wants to be happy and loved. But sometimes it turns out that, due to circumstances, you are not just a woman, you are a mother. And the dad of your baby or baby, for some reason, is not your husband. Thus, the natural need of any woman to be loved is unsatisfied. Does a woman who has a child but no husband want to get married? Certainly! Then why doesn't she always get married? Because he sees a lot of obstacles to his happiness. What are these obstacles and are they objective? This is what we will talk about. Such mothers consider their baby to be one of the obstacles. If my own dad didn’t need the baby, then someone else’s uncle didn’t need it, or as they say: “Who needs me with a child?” Is this an objective reason? No. There are many single mothers in the world who are no longer single, but have become happy married women, and their babies have a dad who is always there and does not come on weekends. This is an obstacle that those women who are married with a child simply do not see, and therefore it does not exist for them. In addition, thinking who needs someone else’s child, the woman forgets that the man will marry her, not her child, and if he loves her, then he accepts her for who she is, and the fact that she is a mother, in his eyes may be an advantage, and not a disadvantage, as the woman believes. Thus, this obstacle is entirely fictitious, and it exists in your life only because it exists in your head; if you remove the obstacle from your head, it will automatically go away from your life. Another reason for a single mother not to get married is her motherhood. She says to herself and those around her: well, I’m a mother now, I have to live for the child, but I’ve already lived for myself. Most often, such a mother is untrue and cries into her pillow at night, cursing fate and men to the hilt. Is it really so necessary to forget about yourself when you are a single mother? Completely unnecessary and even harmful. Why is it not necessary and why is it harmful? It is not necessary to forget about yourself, because motherhood does not occupy 24 hours a day in a woman’s life. Another thing is that if you set a goal, then you can devote all the time you have to motherhood, and if suddenly there is free time left, then take it with work or something else, just not devote it to your beloved. It’s so scary to stop and think about your own life, and understand that something is wrong in my life, something is missing. Why is it harmful to forget about yourself and give up personal happiness in favor of motherhood? Because if you have a daughter, then she will see her mother alone all the time, and in the future this will be her family model, and unconsciously she will repeat it. Plus, your girl won't see you as a happy woman and won't know who a happy woman is. As a result, she herself will not be able to become a happy woman in the future, since she simply will not know that this is possible. The girl will also develop a negative opinion about men: they are somehow different, since my mother is alone. Do you want all this for your little daughter? Most likely not. If you have a son, then he simply needs a male upbringing, since it is from his dad, or whoever your boy considers dad, that he will take the model of male behavior, and if there is no man in his immediate circle, then how will your son learn to be one? What other consequences could there be for a woman to give up her personal life in order to be a good mother? Sooner or later, children grow up, and your child will grow up and want to live his own life. Will you give him such an opportunity? Statistics show that it is much more difficult for a single mother to understand that her child has grown up and is ready for an independent life. She put all of herself into the child, and when the child grows up, she simply does not understand why he needs independence, does he feel bad with me? The third reason why a single mother remains so is the child’s reluctance for the mother to get married. Your child is jealous of you and is afraid that he will not be given attention.