The growing up of a girl is a fascinating process. She grows in two forms: 🍎 Mother - the parent and 🍏 Woman - etzer - replenishing the being of a man to irreducible unity. Ally and partner (part-part).🍎 The first role is fully acquired from infant interaction with the mother and a complex of instinctive patterns that are activated hormonally and neurally. To spoil it or litter it, you need a cold, toxic mother, a break in their connection, a physical or mental breakdown. But the creation of a second role is the most complex social connection of relationships with the father, relationships with a married couple of parents, both Man and Woman. In this complex In gender dance, a girl can receive the blessing of BEING HERSELF, SHOWING UP with her feminine soft power. Or she can receive a curse: not to be herself, but to be herself. The weakest, the most important, the most invincible, the most irreplaceable, the most irresistible. Of course, this happens when the family burdens her with an inappropriate role: to be hope and support, to replace her father, to love her father instead of her mother, to preserve her parents’ relationship with her “magic.” Unbeknownst to herself, she grows up not to be a man’s comrade-in-arms, but a giant rival! This is not a partnership, but a fight! She constantly convinces herself of his insignificance before her power. Look how easily she can seduce him, infantilize him, humiliate him, and defeat him in activity and rationality. Who are these same men anyway to her? Who then is she to them? When she defeated a man, she lost the man. She's a lady! Can celebrate victory! But the master of whom? Fools, penises, disabled people and corpses...Is she happy? I doubt it... What does a real Woman do? What is her love and gift of partnership? She enters into the We of her man without losing her Self. This is her mission - to connect, assist, sympathize. Put WE (relationships) first, and all other goals (borscht, children, money) next. But if she won, then who should I sympathize with? Penises? Who to team up with? With fools? And why complain that he doesn’t want anything and doesn’t move for the sake of his family? You defeated him. He's dead. Rejoice. It won’t work... a woman needs security. Then she can create, give birth, experience pleasure, imbue everyone with her love. A man needs to work hard to unite with a woman. A woman needs to relax in order to unite with a man. Yes... that's what you're thinking. In all senses.