In systemic-family therapy, a systemic-phenomenological approach, there are orders or laws that were identified and designated by Bert Hellinger. The first order, or the Law of Belonging, states that everyone who belongs to the family system has an equal right to belong, regardless of what his life and what attitude the people around him had towards his/her life. Each member of the family system has the right to belong to it. This means that no matter how a person lived his life (or even if he did not have time to live it - early died or was not born on time), he belongs to the system on an equal basis with everyone and cannot be forgotten or excluded. “No one is excluded,” Bert Hellinger formulates this law. Violation of this Order, i.e. the exclusion of someone from the family system leads to the fact that another member of the system takes his place, forced to repeat his fate in some details and/or experience unclear sensations and feelings “I’m out of place”, “I can’t find myself in life” . This happens on a deeply unconscious level. Exclusion refers to the reluctance of members of the system to recognize the full belonging of other participants to it:✔️condemnation, criticism✔️categorical rejection, hatred✔️repressed, exiled✔️thieves, murderers, alcoholics, drug addicts✔️secrets, not accepted to talk✔️fear that others will judge because of this family member (they will persecute, punish) ✔️ too painful and traumatic experience with a family member (abortions, dead children, miscarriages) Not only the family members themselves, but their feelings, can also be excluded as well as circumstances, situations (wars, violence, murders). What does knowledge of this law give us? Without excluding, without displacing anyone in our family, accepting the past of our ancestors with all the + and -, we have the opportunity to shape our own scenario, to shape our life in its best manifestation. Otherwise, violating, without knowing about it, unconsciously we will pull up scenarios from all sorts of violations in life, which are often requests for therapy: * bad behavior of children * betrayal of partners * choosing the wrong partners * living a life that is not our own * failed, inexplicably heavy feelings that haunt your whole life (apathy, loneliness, powerlessness, hatred)* most of the symptoms and diagnoses. By carrying out the constellation and knowing how the laws of systems work, it is possible to resolve these requests in the best possible way. It is only important to be ready for changes and have a firm intention to live your life own life happily. During the consultation, I show where the client violates and how it affects him. We look at the whole picture, without much delving into the past. Afterwards, we choose clear, specific actions “what to do” in order to live differently, to live as we want, and are not forced.