Today I would like to analyze such a feeling as envy. The world is not homogeneous and in it some people have more resources, others less. These can be material resources (money, property, health, age), intangible (talents, skills, opportunities), social (the presence of any connections, relationships). In this regard, some people may have a feeling of envy towards others . The feeling belongs to the category of socially disapproved, and therefore, as a rule, is hidden. What are its characteristics? This feeling: causes discomfort in the one who experiences it, can turn into aggression, depressive states are felt as a lack of something that another has, fixes attention on what a person does not have, causes a drop in self-esteem, destroys the relationship with the object of envy, causes depreciation of what one has envious, accumulation of irritation, which can have a bad effect on close relationships of the person himself, does not allow him to feel like a happy person, with prolonged and intense experience, can cause psychosomatic diseases, can undermine a person’s faith in himself, his capabilities and talents, can make a person passive in achieving goals In general, can cause many unpleasant consequences .Why does this happen, where does it come from? As a rule, due to certain patterns of thinking and perception that may arise: If one of the parents was prone to this feeling. Due to the habit of comparing oneself and others, underestimating oneself. Due to fixation on imposed social stereotypes of success. Low self-esteem Not knowing all the problems of the person you envy What to do? First, realize and honestly admit to yourself. That yes, I really envy another person and this is what causes me a feeling of discomfort. Realize that this feeling is destructive and does not bring me anything good. Next, begin to work through this feeling. You can do this on your own, or with a person you trust and who will not judge you. First, figure out how valuable what you envy is, how do you know that it is valuable (who told you about it, where you heard it, etc.). Already at this level one can discover that the value of something has been formed under the influence of advertising, the media, and mass film production. Those. is imposed and indoctrinated. Figure out what is truly valuable to me, and what I can completely do without. Next, I need to figure out how I differ from others for the better, what I have that others don’t. Realize the value of your personality. It is very good to understand your mission and purpose (although this is quite a difficult job, it is very rewarding). Realize the uniqueness of your personality and your talents. As a rule, envy arises due to underestimation of your personality... If in the process it turns out that something that we envy is really very valuable to me, then it is useful to redirect this energy, from worry to achievement, to set a goal, to say if someone else succeeded, then I can do it too, start acting. In this way, we spend the energy directed towards envy more constructively, and accordingly we live more richly and joyfully. In this way, you can work with envy, of course, you don’t always succeed on your own. In many cases, it is more effective to work with a specialist. Contact me, I’ll help!