Envy is a natural and valuable feeling. By getting to know him, we can see our true needs and growth areas. Remember the person you envy. And that quality of his that makes you envious (success in some area, demand, courage, ability to communicate, lifestyle). Try to look at this quality in as much detail as possible and see that this is what you would like for yourself. Try to return this projection to yourself, because with envy you lose your energy. It is within you that there is a source that requires development and signals you about this with envy. I can congratulate you - you have discovered a new, unknown part of yourself. Which can be supported and creatively grown. Try to feel where exactly this energy is located in you? What's stopping her? What are the prohibitions and fears? How can we help her free herself and grow? As you can see, envy, in this sense, is not a bad feeling at all. But in addition to our own, useful, envy, we can, as it were, “get infected” by someone else’s - through the mechanism of projective identification. It arises when we find ourselves in the field of another person who is himself very envious, but splits off this fact from his consciousness. He unconsciously invests in others his own unaccepted parts - in this case, envy. He endows us with his quality, accuses us of envy, and moreover, we may suddenly actually begin to experience a previously unusual feeling of envy for something. This process was first described by Melanie Klein, who defined projective identification as “an unconscious fantasy in which aspects of a personality or internal object are separated and attributed to an external object.” Naturally, there is nothing good in such envy; it can be quite difficult to notice it in yourself, but it is possible through studying your own envy and appropriating it. In the same way, we can recognize and appropriate our other traits, then other people’s projections and accusations of qualities that do not belong to us will not hurt us - we will simply return them to the owner.