From the author: An essay on the topic of human relations, published on my website and in the space of the blogosphere. Don’t be sad that people don’t know you, but be sad that you don’t know people. Confucius In early childhood, a child often lives with a sense of himself as the center of his small world. All the events of the surrounding life in his perception revolve around himself. You are lying in your cozy and protected crib, and as soon as you cry, soon one of the big people appears (what is it, someone, mother most often) and will take care of you - entertain you, make you more comfortable, feed you, actively take part in your life. And you gradually get used to the little-conscious reality - all this, as if, happens at your request to the world around you. When you are little, you seem to be the center of the universe. But then you come a little older, when you join a certain group. Most often, this will be a kindergarten. Or, a little later, school. And there you will come into close contact with the harsh reality of life. It turns out that you are not the only center in this universe. There are many such centers, and each of them comes into contact with the same expectation from the world that everything in it happens according to its desire. It is quite obvious that soon such centers of the universe, brought together, will enter into a conflict of interest. The conflict is completely normal and natural, the purpose of which is to prepare a person for life in a large society, in a large world of other people. Each person goes through this period of life in his own way and with his own results, which often leave an imprint on all his subsequent relationships with people in the future. This is neither good nor bad. It's just the way it is. Each one has a unique combination. When a person grows up, much of his childhood experience is forgotten and seems to him no longer so important. But the attitude that originated in childhood towards these very other people often remains the same. And, sometimes, many torments and problems a person has are associated with certain others. For some, these problems consist of incessant background worry about how interesting you are to other people, how deserving of their attention, how good you are, how valuable, etc. For others, on the contrary, communication with others may be rejected, irritation and or even anger. It is especially difficult when such rejection is caused by one of your relatives or friends. Many people cannot get rid of this rejection, and they constantly feel guilty for this rejection. There are many different ways to work with such symptoms in yourself. Surely, a whole lot of psychological techniques and methods of varying degrees of complexity. One simple thing that comes to my mind now is to look at your original intention when you are in contact with another. Maybe, instead of constantly evaluating yourself for how interesting you are to someone else, you can lively and sincerely allow yourself to become interested in them. Well, simply because a person in very, very many life examples turns out to be much deeper, more interesting, more multifaceted than how he appears in his usual perception. There is one method in existential therapy that both surprised and pleased me. It consists in the fact that the client is asked to compile a certain archive of generational memory, turning to one of his relatives or close acquaintances. In one version, this looks like filming a documentary or writing a documentary chronicle of this person's life story. Something that outwardly may look like a documentary about the life story of the mother of director Pavel Lungin, “Interlinear”. It consists of a simple story by an elderly woman about her life and that time in general, captured on film. The people with whom clients work in this task are, in many cases, elderly. Those with whom the members.