Almost everyone has a psychologist friend with whom they can discuss any problem. There seems to be nothing wrong with these intimate conversations. It’s really good when there is a loved one who can support... but most often that’s where it all ends. Why? There are 4 reasons: Talking to a friend gives you temporary relief. But neither the problem nor the task is solved! It’s like constantly taking painkillers: the pain is gone, but the cause remains. A friend shares his experience, gives a solution that worked for him. But it’s not at all a fact that this will help you, but it’s quite possible to make it worse. Advice from friends is most often superficial and only affects the situation itself. For example, a friend’s boss is a tyrant. She complains to you, you begin to wash his bones and discuss how a careless boss should behave. But the situation will not change, because most often the cause of the conflict with the manager lies deeper and you must first deal with yourself. It seems that you know exactly who is right and who is wrong. Therefore, by chance you can evaluate not only the situation, but also the narrator himself. As a result, the conversation will end with the phrase: “It would be better if I didn’t tell you this.” Of course, we cannot help but support our loved ones. But there is a possibility of a side effect: you listen to complaints, tears, come up with solutions to the problem, but nothing changes for your friend. She remains in the position of a victim. Therefore, it is good when in a difficult situation there is someone close to you who is ready to calm you down. But then you need to go to a specialist. What are the advantages of psychological help? Everything you tell will remain between you and the psychologist. No one will know what you said or discussed. Everything is confidential. You will not hear accusations against you or an assessment of your actions. The psychologist has a non-judgmental attitude towards you. You don’t have to worry about wasting other people’s time with your conversations. After all, this is the work of a psychologist. You will be able to see the essence of the problem and figure out what is preventing you from solving it, what difficulties there are and what solution options are acceptable to you. You will be able to discuss your experiences, and even those that are considered unacceptable from the point of view of generally accepted norms . You will feel relief not only because you spoke out, but also because you got off the ground in solving this problem. After all, just turning to a psychologist is already a big step towards liberation. If something is bothering you, it seems like you are going around in circles with the same problem and nothing is changing, then come to me for a personal consultation. Let's work together, dig deeper and move from this dead point.