From the author: Contacting a psychologist on time helps prevent sometimes irreversible situations. Students, young couples, and more experienced and mature clients come to me for therapy or consultation. At the same time, the majority of clients in individual and group therapy are women. Many of us come from families where there was not enough love and attention, recognition and understanding. For example, a person who in childhood was an unloved girl may come to personal therapy, and in the present she always has to either deserve love or simply live without it. The trap may be that we are looking where it is not and has never been: with parents, a husband, who may also lack love... It is quite normal for a woman to look for someone who will care and help, and a visit to a psychologist - This is an opportunity to get the support that you really need. Who needs support most often? This could be: A girl who has created her own family, but does not know what to do with a new relationship and the difficulties associated with it. A young mother who gives a lot of attention and care to her child, but is not always able to replenish her resources. A woman who has lost her husband because of... for death or divorce. A wife who has experienced her husband’s betrayal. This could be a girl who does not build her personal life because of feelings of guilt before her parents... The topics may be different, but, most importantly, it is important to remember that situations that cause internal tension in a woman , as well as not knowing what to do with resentment, fear, anger, loss of trust - all this can lead to chronic stress and depression, premature aging, psychosomatic diseases, and unhealthy relationships. Dissatisfaction with life, your relationships, yourself, the situation in the present is already a reason to turn to a psychologist. A woman really becomes happier if she finds new sources of support. In addition, personal therapy is a great opportunity to change what has had a detrimental effect on life since childhood, building your space, “designing” yourself in a truly new way, and, therefore, improving your perception of yourself and personal situations. A man, of course, prefers to solve problems on his own. It is typical for him to look for a solution. And there may be another trap here. There are situations that need to be saved, changed, something done now, because then it may be too late, relationships, a promising job, a new valuable opportunity may be lost. And what happens? The man acts. But he does it the way he used to, in the usual way, and the result is not the same as he would like. For example, a wife moves away and withdraws, which can soon lead to an unwanted divorce. And the husband is trying to resolve the situation with an onslaught, something that has worked in other places, but not in the family... And this leads to even greater alienation on the part of the wife. What to do? At a minimum, this is to find out which methods are suitable in a particular case... And a psychologist can help look at the situation in a new way, from the side of a person who is not involved in what is happening, to find out the causes and consequences, so that the man himself can see new possibilities for solving the problem. Each of We are faced with life crises, and with changes, and with stress, and not everyone in the family or educational institution was taught how to build harmonious relationships, how to cope with emotions, how to be successful, loved. It is worth going for this knowledge and practical skills to a psychologist. Or continue to step on the same rake?..The choice is always yours-) Natalya Kornilova. 10.10.2014