On the eve of March 8, let's talk about what female success is. The cult of success is one of the biggest causes of burnout. All you have to do is go on social networks, turn on the TV, and everyone there is slim, rich, relaxes a lot and is happy in their personal lives. And literally everyone in the networks is like this, but a real person cannot achieve the ideal. And success hits women harder. Because the requirements for women are especially harsh. How does this manifest itself and is it possible to somehow find peace of mind in such conditions? Let's discuss. There are now many demands for women's success. I won’t go too much into the historical reasons, you already know them. With the development of industrialization, traditional values ​​are weakening; it is no longer enough for a woman to be a “keeper of the hearth”; she needs to be a participant in production. During World War II, many men died and the burden on women increased. But no one has canceled the traditional roles and the criteria corresponding to them. What criteria are we talking about? A woman should be a good mother. A woman must be married, which becomes more difficult with fewer men. A woman should be beautiful and energetic. And of course, it is important to develop professionally. If one of the criteria is missing, then you can always face condemnation. Working a lot but not married? - “Old maid, grimza.” A striking example is the story of the heroine “Office Romance”. No children? “Selfish.” Have children, but spend most of your time on your career? "Cuckoo". All the time with children? “Press”, “Klusha”. Do you devote most of your energy to work, children, and husband, but don’t have time to take care of your appearance? “Bloomed.” It turns out that there is no way out. But the difficulty lies not only in the huge number of criteria, but also in the absence of criteria for achieving a result. For example, how do you understand how good a mother you are? How to measure this? Is it even possible to be an ideal mother? British pediatrician Donald Woods Winnicott argues that it is impossible. He coined the concept of “good enough mothers.” And it seems like it should have gotten easier, but the question arises: “Am I good enough as a mother?” There are always questions: do I play with the child enough, should I be stricter or softer, set an example with my career, or, if possible, give up work and focus only on my family. And a separate area is personal interests. A modern woman, if you believe the criteria from social networks, must grow spiritually and have her own hobbies. Which is wonderful, but what about the children, husband and job abandoned at this moment? And here again the successful success from social networks works, where we see slender divas with their own business with flowers from their husband and 4 children. But it's important to understand. that we will never know how true the stories being broadcast are, they may just be stage images. Smiling children may be lonely, the business may be fake, the husband may not be as attentive as broadcast. How not to drive yourself into nervous exhaustion? My answer is this: the main thing is to listen to your needs, not the stereotypes of society, and try to live in accordance with your values. If there is a desire to build a career, then this is the main thing. If there is a desire to emphasize home comfort, then this is important. Be guided by your desires, and not by images of success or the demands of your parents. And build your life based on your values. Including looking for resources. For example, you value comfort, but it is also important to develop in your career. Why not contact a cleaning company. The “do it all yourself” criterion is outdated. It sounds easy, but figuring out what values ​​are most important to you is not a very easy task..