Sometimes something happens that turns our idea of ​​ourselves upside down. So much so that it becomes impossible to live with this idea, as it seems at this moment. In any case, as before, it is impossible - the soul does not even cry, scream or silently wash itself with tears! And it seems that it is enough to just forget and live as before, without memory of it. Such psychological defense mechanisms are known as repression, suppression - out of sight, out of mind. I don’t see, I don’t worry... These mechanisms operate automatically - due to our personal development, the corresponding mechanisms . Note that they operate flawlessly in any case, once you receive the appropriate strength or duration, a blow from Fate. Well, when the place is also vulnerable - a direct hit, all the more so the effect is expected. Note, there is nothing shameful in that - this is how everyone works. In one case, nothing gets into the consciousness - and this saves the person from an insoluble contradiction and unbearable pain , a person lives for himself, especially if he avoids such events that could remind him of the past, but not experienced, and everything is fine. In another case, when a person is somewhat more resistant to a traumatic experience, he is already allowed into consciousness, but partly, due to the primary (rough) purification - just as a water filter works - the same thing works here, the material penetrates the consciousness in a somewhat distorted - digestible form, but the key thing is that it penetrates. So we live as best we can. ..But sometimes you suddenly find an eccentric. This weirdo will do everything wrong. And so, our hero is faced with information that screams to him about something that causes him acute pain, raising events of days long past. And what happens? In extreme cases, a person literally loses his ability to perception - the organs of perception fail - does not see, does not hear, does not feel. He is imagining - he is imagining. What is that monkey in relation to evil - does not want and does not observe, and, it seems, is not involved in the act - is innocent. In less acute cases, and with kind, reliable support, a person can observe and experience pain, suffering, but also enduring this suffering, allowing himself a little courage, and now it turns out to be possible to do something differently than before. And this the beginning of change. Change for the better. Although through thorns. But to the stars. The paths in psychotherapy are mysterious. And we expect the result. Although not guaranteed. But the process is guaranteed as long as the therapist is alive, healthy and the client is ready for this journey into unknown distances. But they gave promising ones. What is he looking for in a distant land?! What did he throw in his native land?!