Is it possible to be an open, lively person and at the same time be able to control your emotions at the right moment? The task, in fact, is not simple, given that our emotionality is very difficult to train. If you are an extrovert by nature, then it will be difficult for you to put on a mask of calm when your whole insides strive to express itself through the entire palette of sensual and emotional colors . And yet, self-control can be developed provided that you spend some time on it and learn to launch those mechanisms of self-control that allow you to restrain your emotions within the framework you need. It is especially important to be able to do this in professional areas, where uncontrolled emotionality can become a barrier on the way to career growth or achieving goals. Under the pressure of emotions, a person may tell something important to competitors, may not restrain himself in communicating with a client or buyer, may alienate and turn colleagues against him, and in general, a lack of control over emotions may not be in favor of such an employee, unless, of course, you don't work as a touring entertainer. It is also useful to be able to restrain emotions in home communication, when you can easily offend those close and dear to you with your inappropriate laughter or a caustic word that escapes. But how to control your emotional outbursts if every time they happen spontaneously and it is difficult to be prepared for this? The answer to this is in the question itself. It is necessary to learn to be prepared for your manifestations of emotional arousal. Precisely because it is difficult, this is what you need to learn! This skill does not come on its own. And for this you need to get to know yourself better. Yes, many of us only think that we know ourselves well, although psychological consultations almost always reveal individual details of character and behavior that the person himself did not see or discover in himself. Ignorance of our capabilities and individual traits often makes it difficult for us to achieve conscious behavior. It’s easier for us to say that I can’t do anything about myself and my emotions than to do internal work and see in ourselves the true potential for self-improvement and self-control. At the same time, your natural emotionality will not suffer, you will not lose the brightness and richness of life’s shades, but you will gain the ability at certain moments to control the supply of colors so that the canvas of your perception is not flooded with the colors of emotions, and you can objectively and calmly assess what is happening. Do not think that if you learn to at least situationally control your emotional manifestations, then you will turn into a “dead” , a cold person whose composure and severity are striking and alarming. Control of emotions is required for those who, unlike repressed or secretive people, easily open up to others, splashing out their positive and negative emotions over the edge. Such a lively nature cannot always be kept within certain boundaries, but if you acquire self-control skills in the process of psychological therapy, then you can turn on protection from emotions when you can harm yourself or your business with these emotions. You can read other articles by the author here 🌹 With respect and care for you, Marina Kudrina Sign up for a consultation here