Once I heard a man talking about a dating site, and criticism of some women's photographs. I was surprised by the categorical statement about “staged” photographs of beautiful women. The interlocutors expressed indignation at the large number of photographs of women, as if in a “frozen” version. I thought about the phrase: “Is it difficult for them to ask someone to take a photo of themselves in a relaxed pose while they are doing something?” Those. do they (men) want to see a woman in live action? What do men pay attention to? For example, the well-known phrase “in bed, like a log” probably means frozen, frozen, not alive, without movement and, accordingly, without feedback to external stimuli (in this article I do not consider the internal experiences of a woman, but only her external behavior ). So why are they (men) not satisfied with the external beauty of a staged photo? Let's remember how men love fishing: they are ready to stand motionless for hours, looking at the float, and the fishing line with a hook is somewhere in the depths of the water (water is the feminine element), and it doesn’t matter which fish bites, 2 cm or 2 m. Fast reaction to the movement of the float. The same is true in interpersonal relationships. Let’s imagine that there is a “forest” of beautiful girls, all as if selected, one more beautiful than the other, and who is the male gaze aimed at? The one that moves is what makes it stand out from the general background. Why do men pay attention to lively facial expressions, movements of arms, shoulders, as well as straps, chains, earrings. When everything is in motion, it is mesmerizing. Example: a girl is sitting, her posture is straight, her gaze is confident, she sits like everyone else. And if she turns her head, her earrings will play, her hair will change position. And if she accidentally twists the ring on her finger, movement is already happening. All these movements are sexual signals, not bright makeup and short skirts. Let's remember the animal world: who is bright and beautiful? (lions, peacocks, ducks) are males, and females are quite inconspicuous. It turns out that a woman’s attractiveness is NOT bright clothes (You can object to fashion trends, but any psychologist will tell you that high heels and long nails are phallic symbols, and at the subconscious level this is competition with men. And where there is competition and struggle, this means a completely equal partnership of the same sex. And in the relationship between a woman and a man, the basis is polarity, i.e. the opposition of two entities). Watch a 5-year-old girl, how she talks to boys, her whole body “plays” and “walks.” At this magical age, female coquetry is born, this is the age of fantasy and creativity. The age of formation of female behavior, where the mother and favorite doll serve as the standard. You can learn to repeat sexual cues by watching seductive women. Good experience, but not always acceptable to us. You can give yourself a couple of hours and do the following exercise: take out different dresses, skirts, scarves, blankets from the closet, and put everything on yourself the way 5-year-old girls do and make faces in front of the mirror, act out or dance, in general, give it to your child a holiday for the soul (do the exercise for at least 20 minutes to get into the role well). Next, feel free to change your outfit to a more provocative, sharp, arrogant, flashy one, as a girl of 13-15 years old does, and again - make faces. Do it boldly, brightly, with emotion. Keep your back straight! At this age, girls' breasts grow (and a girl who slouches does not accept her breasts, and goes into deep childhood, when her breasts have not yet grown). Next, imagine that you are 20, and from the point of view of a 20-year-old young woman, dress, and express your facial expressions with confidence, with an awareness of your feminine uniqueness. Well, now, how old are you, look at yourself in the mirror, how your eyes sparkle now, what new movements have appeared in your body? What changed in you after the exercises done? What kind of person are you?!