From the author: In no way do I judge the women I write about. Wanting a better fate, in my opinion, is normal. What do women most often talk about on a first date with a man? And men will confirm this. Women most often tell men about their unhappy lives. They do this not out of stupidity, but in the hope of finding support, support, protection in a man. But the fact is that in the relationship of men to women there can be two options: either a woman attracts a man and he admires her, or a man feels sorry for the woman. and the woman becomes “pathetic” and unhappy for him. And unattractive. A man may want to solve a woman’s problems, but later, when she becomes close and dear to him. But at the first stage of dating, all this will push a man away. The biggest mistake in relationships with men, or rather, the biggest misconception that women have about men is that men are our rescuers. There is a certain woman who lives in the world, she lives like this Maybe, as it turns out, she wants to live a much better life. And there are suffering experiences in her life (like everyone else, by the way), and they can be very difficult. And so the woman thinks: “If only a man were nearby, everything would be fine.” And the woman believes that there is a man in the world ( soulmate or something else), who will come and save her from this nightmare called “life”. As one of my clients said: “When I meet Him, I will tell him what happened to me, and how difficult it is for me in life And when I tell him this, we will both cry over what I had to experience.” This client lived with her husband, a high-status official, and considered her life very unsuccessful. And she believed that He would come and say: “How difficult it is for you, how unhappy you are. Get a divorce and marry me.” They say that hope dies last. And if it’s difficult for a woman, it’s normal to believe in the best. But is it necessary to believe that a man will come and save her? And who exactly will come and how to save her? What can solve a woman’s problems? The first thing is money, which a woman usually doesn’t have enough. A woman so wants money and what it gives (buying things, traveling, etc.) that a man of any appearance with money or with the suspicion that he has money automatically becomes handsome and a hero. And men, seeing such an interest in women, they can easily manipulate them. I have already told in one of the articles the case of my client, who met a rich (in her opinion) man, and he, walking her home, said: “I will help you financially, but I need to know what I'm going to pay for." They had sex in the hallway. And she never saw him again. Such a sad (for my client) and far from an isolated story. In my opinion, in such relationships a woman loses more than she gains. After all, there are not many stories where, in the end, a man actually helps a woman financially. A woman is ready in advance for almost all the conditions of a rich man. And even small amounts as a gift justify her suffering. In such relationships, the concepts of “my dignity” and “my opinion”, unfortunately, do not come first. And the woman gradually loses herself and degrades morally. And the worst thing is that, hoping for income from a man, a woman focuses on a man - how to get to know him, how to please him, how to attract even more. And a woman may not develop her ability to earn money - to make a career and develop her professional talents. And financial dependence on a man may prevent her from developing and revealing herself as a person. Secondly, you need to help a woman solve her everyday problems. Not all women can clean the sink or hang wallpaper. And, wanting to show the world how difficult it is, a woman may strive to show herself weaker than she really is. And the most cherished dream of such women is the appearance of a man on whom the woman will throw all her household worries. But if a woman wants to have an economic and organized man nearby, she herself must become organized and economical. You can imagine a couple where the man does everything.