From the author: This article was written by me for one of the local glossy publications. Female jealousy. As we are all used to hearing from our familiar girls, friends, sisters - “It’s okay, let him be jealous! He will appreciate and love more!”…Jealousy is a strange phenomenon, especially female jealousy, isn’t it? What is this strangeness? Every girl loves to feel like the center of male attention and at the same time plays on the nerves of her other half in a unique way. She loves it when her boyfriend or husband is jealous of her, but not every girl admits the idea that the boyfriend/husband can “play a little” with her, here we already hear “How could he! I won’t allow myself to be treated like this!” etc., etc. A woman can be jealous of absolutely everything: work, friends, parents, hobbies, etc.! If you look at all these aspects of female jealousy, it will become more clear that, contrary to the universal saying “Being jealous means loving,” love itself and jealousy itself have very little in common. At the basis of female jealousy lies a banal feeling of possessiveness: don’t touch mine! According to psychologists, the more selfish a person is, the more susceptible he is to the pangs of jealousy. For this reason, suffering from jealousy is alien and incomprehensible to the inhabitants of harems: there are no feelings, there is no jealousy. Jealousy itself is not inherent in all women. Women who are suspicious, insecure, or, on the contrary, narcissistic, selfish, unstable in character, women who married not for love, but more for everyday reasons, are more likely to doubt their husband’s fidelity. It is also possible that a woman may have jealousy, which was passed on to her from the scenario of her own mother’s behavior. Where does jealousy begin? Female jealousy, to be frank, begins from scratch: he called not 10 times, but 8 in a day; arrived home half an hour late; he became somehow distant and withdrawn! Thoughts begin to run chaotically in my head and the first bells ring, which make their own kind of verdict: “He has someone else!” What a bastard!” And after that, the game of spy begins - SMS messages are viewed on the mobile while he is in the shower, the shirt collar is looked through and sniffed (well, this is a game and everything should be like in a movie - lipstick, the smell of HER perfume, etc.), there is a constant ringing - and where are you? with whom? where is it? why not with me? You have to forget about romance and usual evenings. The main thing is to find incriminating evidence in any wrong opinion or in any phrase! And here another well-known proverb “He who seeks will always find” comes into force, and there is no way to do without a showdown. Due to pride and overly frayed nerves during the period of playing spy, the woman expresses to him everything that has accumulated in her soul during this period, he turns around and leaves, slamming the door. And then something like this begins: “He left, slamming the door! Well, let him roll, that’s where he belongs, you insensitive pig! Traitor! I’m ready to do anything for him, but he only has one thing on his mind! Am I worse than him?! Yeah! Now I’ll get myself in order, put on my makeup, put on my favorite dress/skirt and also go have fun!!!...” No matter how funny and absurd it may seem, but, unfortunately, in most cases, the manifestation of such jealousy in one of the partners leads precisely to a similar end to the relationship. From all of the above, I can conclude: There is no need to be jealous, if only because it really pointless. After all, it is logical that if there is no reason, then, strictly speaking, it is stupid to be jealous, and if there is a reason, then, frankly speaking, it is too late to be jealous. If you have a seed of mistrust and doubt in your partner, then there is the most common conversation. There is no need to create scenes of jealousy, scandals with breaking dishes, just talk to him about what worries you and what stresses you out so much. Maybe your fantasy of having someone on your side isn't worth a damn. Together with him you will solve the problem in one evening, but alone with yourself and your thoughts you will suffer from jealousy!