"Greed for money, if it is insatiable, is much more painful than need, for the more desires grow, the greater needs they generate." DemocritusGreed is the desire to capture and hold on to everything that causes desire. Greed, like envy, is a condemned feeling and personality trait in our society. As a result, most people are not aware of their greed, and if it is pointed out to them, they feel insulted. Most often, the following mechanisms are used to hide greed from oneself: - Projection - “Everyone around is stealing, I am still, compared to others, I'll take it modestly" - Rationalization - "Now there is a crisis, we need to be very careful with money" - Denial - "I would help, I willingly help people, but this person is probably lying, and he will squander my money" In greed, two components (or two) can be distinguished option), if we try to consider it from Freud’s position, then we have: 1 - Greed - an oral desire to have (absorb, consume) 2 - Stinginess - an anal desire to have (hold, accumulate) What is the difference between greed and stinginess? If greed shouts: “Give me everything and more!”, then stinginess mutters: “I don’t need someone else’s, but I won’t give up what’s mine.” Stinginess has much less energy of capture; it is focused on retention. As an example, and if you take a break from relationships with money, then you can be greedy for compliments, or you can be stingy with praise. Greed, when it is hypertrophied, can push a person to commit terrible acts, crimes, in the end the only thing that interests a miser is accumulated material wealth. Constant dissatisfaction leads to irritability and gloominess. The fear of losing what has been accumulated provokes suspicion, including towards close people. Emotionally, a person also becomes greedy, secretive, and often indifferent to loved ones. Greed, of course, poisons the life of both the person and his family. But it is also difficult to build a harmonious life without greed and stinginess, or to put it another way - socially acceptable - without frugality and the desire to earn money. The origins of greed lie in infancy and early childhood, the eternal feeling of deprivation is associated with the child’s dissatisfaction in his relationship with his mother. Perhaps the baby did not receive enough milk on time (as a synonym for mother’s love), so that he could leave the breast full, satisfied and happy. The child lacked the love and care of his mother, he did not feel valuable and dear. Also, a passion for hoarding and an obsession with consumption can compensate for other unsatisfied needs. Feeling emptiness inside, dissatisfaction with his life, a person tries to fill the space with various things, to prove to himself that he has achieved a lot, and everything is going great. The basis is also low self-esteem and basic anxiety, and material wealth gives a feeling of security and success. Parental behavior patterns play an important role in the formation of greed. It is important to remember in work that when greed is completely repressed, it turns into its opposite - super altruism. Such people, sometimes called moneyless people, are ready to give everything to others, fulfill any request, and easily refuse what they deserve. Such people seem to be afraid to desire anything at all, because they are afraid of pain in case of disappointment. Greed is a very resourceful and important feeling. This includes the ability to say “no”, defending your boundaries. After all, it is very important to look and decide for yourself whether you want to share or give something of your own in this situation and with this person. And have internal permission to defend your territory and your resources when you don’t want to share. Greed also contains energy to achieve a goal, fight against competitors, and be willing to take risks. Understanding yourself, honestly admitting to yourself your greed, recognizing this trait is already a resource. There is no need to spend a lot of energy hiding unpleasant feelings and qualities of your personality. When a person realizes that he is experiencing greed, he has a conscious choice:"