From the author: psychologist-sexologist, family psychologist. expert on television programs, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, master of NLP, educational psychologist, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach, esoteric psychotherapist. The author of more than 500 articles on a variety of problems, which you can see by looking at the *articles* section and, probably, this will already help solve your problem. The author of more than 100 training programs, which you can see by visiting my video channel on YouTube and typing “Afanasyeva Lilia.” It is worth noting that couples often look like some kind of opposites. You've probably heard the expression that opposites attract. And often in my practice as a psychologist-sexologist, family psychologist, I am convinced of this. This is, perhaps, even good, but how could a sexual problem be solved in a couple if the girl is very shy and is not ready to appear at an appointment with a psychologist - a sexologist, although the female sexual problem, as they say, is “ripe” and requires its solution. So, a guy from Moscow called me and asked me to make an appointment with his girlfriend, saying that he would come with her, since she was in such a step will never be decided on its own. And then a couple appeared on my doorstep. He is like a little motor - sociable, positive, a good storyteller. And the girl behaved quite modestly. It further turned out that their sex leaves much to be desired, and besides oral sex and mutual masturbation there is almost nothing. Ordinary vaginal intercourse has become extremely rare, and only at the request of a guy. The guys are students, live in a dormitory. So, already working with a girl on her sexual female problems, we went back to our previous experience, when she was still a schoolgirl and had excess weight. Let me note that now she was a charming, slender girl with luxurious hair. So, the girl was teased by her classmates. This made her very sad. She began to feel ashamed of herself and close herself off from people. If she had previously been dancing, she abandoned her classes and began to avoid others. Now the girl realized that all this was in the past, she had already turned into a beautiful swan. But before the realization came, the girl cried, the guy hugged her and calmed her down. Of course, it’s good to have such a sensitive partner. Then the general fear of people emerged. The girl said that it was very difficult for her to communicate with new people. This was reflected in the sexual sphere. The first of the sexual women’s problems was unusual: “I feel pinched from friction.” Hence there was no excitement, because the girl was afraid that it would be painful, and therefore there was no desire for sex and hydration. We changed the client’s state to initiative. I, as a psychologist-sexologist and family psychologist, helped add to the girl’s desire for sex, liberation and openness. Having removed that: “the body does not listen to me,” we replaced it with sensuality and sexuality, and an additional problem associated with the negative experience received, and The fear that everything will again develop according to the previous negative scenario, the fear of pain and the expectation that it will become unpleasant, we erased from the girls’ memory using techniques from NLP. It is worth noting here that indeed quite often our body is separated from consciousness. And here the work of a family psychologist, psychotherapist and sex psychologist is needed to restore a broken connection, or build and create a new one. In such work, it is necessary to take into account all the nuances of the client’s condition and work through them, bringing the changes to positive ones. I would like to note in conclusion that I do not put the scope of how long sex therapy will take, or individual work on female and male sexual problems, because here everyone decides for himself how much he needs it. For some clients, a little understanding is enough to change the situation, someone wants to go as far as end, and solve your sexual problems. In any case,.