FOUR RULES FOR FULFILLING YOUR DREAMS1. Motivation can be “from” or “to”.⠀For example, “I don’t want to lead a miserable existence next year and work at this job” or “I don’t want to be on maternity leave anymore”, or “I don’t want to be alone anymore” . If you set such a goal for yourself, it is as if you are running with your head constantly turned back. You see nothing but your past. Try it, it's very inconvenient.⠀If you know what you want to get away from, that's good. But if you don’t know where you want to come, you won’t get anywhere.⠀ “I don’t want something” doesn’t work. “I want this” – there are chances.⠀2. The goal should be yours.⠀For example, the goal “I want my man to earn more and bring me flowers” ​​is not yours at all. This is why I don’t really like all sorts of trainings like “Inspire, motivate and get your man off the couch.” You wish not for yourself, but for that guy. What if he doesn’t care about your “earning money”?⠀Here, of course, you can talk about how you build relationships as a couple, but this has nothing to do with goals at all. You can plan YOUR own achievements, not other people’s.⠀3. Do you know what is common here⬇️?⠀ “I want to go to the sea, but I don’t have money” “I want to find a man, but all the normal ones are already taken” “I want to build a relationship with a teenager, but I don’t have enough strength because he He snaps and yells all the time.”⠀In all three phrases, responsibility is dropped. There is a reason NOT to do it - I want to, but you see... Who decides that you don’t have the money to go to the sea? And whose responsibility is it to earn them for you? Whose responsibility is it to find common ground with your child? Whose responsibility, after all, is not to take the same route to work, but to look for new acquaintances and a new circle of friends?⠀I’ll tell you a secret: this responsibility is YOURS.⠀4. The goal must be final and specific. For example, the goal “I want to earn 200 thousand” is an excellent goal that is unlikely to ever come true. More precisely, it will come true exactly as you wrote it down for yourself - you will earn, earn and earn these 200 thousand, because a well-formulated result sounds like this: “I have earned so much money over such and such a period of time by such and such a moment.” " Best regards, Sofya Pimenova