Several years ago, when I first started leading a group for people with a terminal illness, I thought that a lot of support and compassion would be required from me. I was tuning myself internally. But it turned out not to be so. The stories of these people, their attitude towards themselves, their illness, towards life - all this aroused my respect, interest, and surprise. And not despondency and pity. Acceptance of life as it is, healthy optimism, a sense of humor - that’s what these people demonstrated. Of course, there was grief and sadness. But it’s situational. And then again we turned to something alive and bright. There is a concept in psychology that is rarely found in the literature. I would say it's an unpopular concept: resilience. Unpopular (because it’s about difficulties, overcoming and other unpleasant things), but very useful for life. This concept was introduced by psychologist Salvatore Maadi, who wondered about the connection between stress and human creativity. You know, this sounds good in theory: a crisis is an opportunity. And also in the top of my least favorites: “Get out of your comfort zone.” Yes, so much effort, time and money went into creating this comfort zone that hands off it!! But bad things, unfortunately, come and are not asked. And we have to somehow react to them, do something. This is where it becomes important how capable we are of taking a hit. How resilient we are. And so this psychologist and his team began to study adults, to see what allows them not only not to “fail” in a stressful situation, but even to grow and improve. As a “key ingredient,” he identified the ability not to run away from difficulties, but to actively engage in life in such moments. Stay in the “here and now.” This ability is the result of attitude to the situation. That is, how a person looks at what is happening. How he evaluates. Remember the joke about the optimist, pessimist and horse boys? In addition, a person’s knowledge of his internal resources and the ability to use them has great weight. Understanding your characteristics, typical reactions, ways to overcome stress, ways to restore strength - all this constitutes resilience. Sometimes my clients and I make a list of ways to quickly get ourselves into working condition. Popular options: • Talk to a loved one; • Sports; • Hitting the pillow; • Sing; • Yelling in the forest; • Dance; • Bath with foam... How do you bring yourself to your senses? Sign up for a consultation in LS.