An obsession with a mother is when, as an adult, my mother is more important than me. The desire to do well for the mother, to take her on vacation, to make her happy by solving her problems speaks of a symbiotic intertwining with the mother. Repetition of a life scenario, which is often called a repetition of fate, is not a repetition of fate at all, but a child’s refusal of his life through the desire to receive his mother’s love, in any way join her. An obsession with the mother appears in a child whose life depends on how the mother takes care of him on a psychological and physical level. If in childhood the baby did not receive enough warmth and love, having become accustomed to cold, cruel, ignoring treatment, In his loneliness, he is looking for a way to earn love by finding different ways to contact her. He will adjust, suppress his desires and do something that will maintain at least some contact with the mother. With his cold, love-dosing behavior, a parent can tie the child to him forever. Continuous contact with the mother is formed in early childhood by fears of being left alone and not understanding what to do in such a situation. It is difficult for a child’s body to cope with rejection, unnecessaryness, the solution becomes to split itself into pieces. Leave the personal in the dark, do as it should. The need to live is replaced by the struggle for survival. BUT, suppressing does not mean removing them, they remain in us, but outside of awareness. Let’s say there were difficult events in early childhood, the psyche changed or hid them, this was the way out to balance. As adults, we will habitually resist reality, denying and suppressing our own experiences, defending childhood, running away from the truth, and being afraid to face it. True, boiling water will come out, either through symptoms in the body, or through aggression, because we cannot simply “delete the file” of our traumatic experiences. True feelings will affect the psyche until the trauma is processed. The psychological development of such a child is no longer holistic or stable; It is difficult for him to create a healthy personality structure, his autonomous (own) development is blocked. Throughout his life, he remains fixated on his mother as a main survival strategy, constantly trying to win her love and establish some kind of contact with her. Because of this, he does everything like her, taking her desires and feelings as his own. Did you like the article? Subscribe. Share.VK: https://vk.com/yulia.vladimirova.psychologisTelegram: https://t.me/yulia_vladimirova_psychologist