A woman in the role of a victim often finds herself in different life situations when she feels bad, she suffers, suffers and constantly experiences a feeling of injustice towards herself - in a team, at work, with friends or in relationships with men. Of course, all roads lead us to childhood. Perhaps the woman was unloved by her parents, saw violence in the family, did not feel important and felt distant from her parents in childhood. Cruelty, accusation, rejection, dislike - there can be many reasons for the formation of a sacrificial attitude. Being in the position of a victim is associated with the hormonal system - adrenaline, cortisol, norepinephrine form the habit of suffering. Growing up, a child builds relationships with others according to the principle and similarity of his relationships in childhood. Accordingly, most often men come into the life of such a woman who do not value her, manipulate, blackmail, devalue her, beat, drink, cheat on her, constantly exposing her to psychological and physical violence. You can endlessly feel sorry and sympathize with such people, but most often the victim suffers not in order to become happy, but in order to suffer. Through her suffering, a woman evaluates her degree of love for a man, that is, the more suffering, the more she loves. But actually it is not. The more suffering, the more hormones are produced, the more the habit becomes stronger and the harder it is to quit. The victim woman seems to be trying to suffer through the relationship and is waiting for the man to change. But he doesn't change. And how can you love a person who doesn’t love himself? This is unnatural. If a person is a victim, then there is automatically an aggressor nearby, who is also hormonally dependent and takes pleasure in bringing suffering to others. The victim does not take responsibility for his life, for the events that happen, because the position is very profitable. You can manipulate others, force yourself to feel sorry, treat with compassion. For many people, this is an absolutely life position that a person may not have consciously chosen, but cannot yet refuse. The first thing you need to do is realize that the victim's position is destructive and this will be the first step towards change. Psychologist Ekaterina FedotovaWhatsApp 8-985-044-06-56