"I really want my boyfriend, I get very excited, but at some point during sex I feel bored/monotonous/indistinct, is this normal? Is there something wrong with me? Or does he not satisfy me? “To sort this situation out, it’s time to turn to the copulatory cycle! This is the basis of sexology. Today we will look at the female cycle of sexual reactions, next. Let's talk about men's and compare. So, our sex can be put on a schedule. And this schedule has some permanent features. All sex begins with mental readiness. Those. sex will not create itself; a woman needs to realize her desire for intimacy and make a decision to realize it. As a rule, this stage occurs under the gentle influence of erotic simulation on the part of the partner (from compliments and playful intonations to touches). If the seduction works + the situation is balanced and the decision is made + external factors are favorable, we can say that a sexual dominant has formed. That is, roughly speaking, the object for sex is identified and taken into close attention. To form a sexual dominant, everyone needs as much time as they need! If this is the first sex with a person, there are fears and doubts, this stage can be quite long, when, as in marriage, for example, it passes quickly due to the stabilization of sexual life. So, when the desire is consistent with the decision to have sex, the sensory stage begins, which is characterized by increasing excitement. Why touch? Because the reactivity of erogenous zones increases and there will be a need for their stimulation. This is where brilliant reactions begin - expansion and lubrication of the vagina + the need for insertion of a penis is formed. A very touching, exciting phase. The third stage is the friction phase, in fact, which is called “plateau” for a reason. Differs in some cunning. This phase covers the period from insertion of the penis to orgasm, but... orgasm is not at all obligatory and does not always happen. And in contrast to the previous stages, here, without proper stimulation, mood and a million other reasons, you can get bored. Especially if there is no additional stimulation and the consciousness is already hanging with one leg in thoughts about unwashed dishes, an unloved job and the desire to leave the remaining money in online shopping. Orgasm will say bye-bye. But let's say orgasm happened - this is the next phase. It is achieved, say... at the end of the plateau stage of the highest level, the most powerful sensory saturation. In the orgasmic stage, the muscles of the pelvic floor and vagina contract. The harsher the orgasm, the more intense the contractions. And the last stage - let’s move away from terminology and call it the stage of decline in excitation + formation of readiness for a second wave of excitation. We take a breath and are ready (individually in time) for the second race. So we have laid out the sexes on a chart and can understand at what stage there is a plug. Let’s return to the situation. The questions clearly relate to the plateau stage. Briefly, what we do: 1. We take into account the features of the phases of the copulatory cycle, we realize that the plateau phase is part of a complex of sexual reactions, we think about our expectations for sex and their realism, taking into account this component. 2. We teach our partner how we need to be further stimulated in order to achieve orgasm, we introduce sexual surrogates. If we don’t know it ourselves, we first learn ourselves through trial and error, then we teach our partner. 3. Don’t get bored at the plateau stage and increase the chance of reaching the orgasmic stage!