Always and in everything it is impossible to be number 1. Being worse at something is unpleasant. IMPOSSIBLE + UNPLEASANT = ENVY If you allow envy to settle inside for a long time, it turns into a harmful feeling. You can turn envy into a useful feeling if it helps you find inspiration and incentive on the path to self-improvement. You can detect envy in yourself when your wishes come true for someone else, but not for you, or you are sure that you must be the best and first in everything. Every person has experienced envy at least once in his life. It is generally accepted in society that envy is shameful and indecent. Therefore, many are afraid to admit even to themselves if they experience a feeling of envy. Most often, people envy because of health, character, abilities, things they don’t have, appearance, success and popularity. If you ignore envy, it will not evaporate, but will eat you from the inside, like a worm eats an apple: Envy can hide behind other feelings : Hatred and anger (at others and oneself) Gloating Resentment (at oneself and others) Sadness, disappointment, annoyance Would it upset you if you were compared to a cheetah who is faster than you? No? And that the gorilla is 9 times stronger than you? No too? This happens because we do not look up to animals. But assessing yourself by comparing yourself with other people is a matter of habit. If you compare yourself with people, you should not compare you from the position of “which of you is better.” Example: There is a person who paints pictures well. Reasonable: I don’t paint pictures, but she writes. And I like that about her. It’s not reasonable: I’m mediocrity, no matter how much I tried to draw, nothing comes out... My hands are in the wrong place. How to turn envy into inspiration? 1) Choose a person you can envy. 2) Clearly indicate what you feel envy about. (! It is important to separate success from a person’s personality; similar success can be achieved, but getting a person’s personality will not work) 3) Ask yourself: Do I really want this? 4) Think and describe how to turn your “I want” into “I can” Thus, You can try to follow the path of the person who inspires you or find your own. The main thing to understand is: where? For what?