I try not to hang out on forums, but from time to time some catchy headlines and questions force me to stay on them. The most recent one: Why get married? Today we’ll talk about this. We’ll put off marriage for another day, and today we’ll talk specifically about men who, for some reason, need to get married. The first reasons for marriage that come to my mind: I love her and am ready to put a stamp in my passport and build a future together with her; I want someone to take care of me like a mother: to cook for me, iron my shirts, buy me delicious things. This is what is accepted in society; I am old and lonely; She became pregnant, which means that I am obliged to marry her; I have no money, but she does; I have money, but she does not; And so on. Interesting and completely diverse reasons, right? Indeed, it seems to me that all this is so individual that it is impossible to derive something general. But you also need to understand that you can really get married not only for love. Only for Love is a vanilla fairy tale for teenagers. It doesn’t always work in life. In general, if the following question arises for a particular man: why should I get married? Then I think that there is no need to get married. This question is already the answer - does a man need it or not. In general, getting married is not necessary, no one obliges you to do this - except society, of course. But this is society, it loves unclear obligations and rules. You are not obliged to get married under any circumstances. It is your complete right to choose who you spend your life with. Even if the girl was deflowered. (What a horror, how is this possible!) Even if the girl became pregnant. You may not want a child, you may not want to get married because of the child, and this is normal. If the child was not planned by anyone, they simply and quickly have an abortion. If a girl has decided that she wants to give birth, this is only her choice in this case. But in most cases, a man gets married and ruins the life of himself and the woman. He marries because if he doesn’t get married, he thinks that society will bite him to death. And this is already a question of self-esteem and self-respect. What is more important for you - living your own life or depending on the opinions of others? © Maria Zalesskaya. All rights reserved