Start publication here Men's love (b17.ru) Real story, collective image. Continuing the topic, I heard the following question: “I just don’t understand what happened to the sexually insatiable “kitty” when she became my wife? Since men are extremely rarely interested in female psychology, at least in comparison with female anatomy, they quite often find themselves in situation: he deceived himself, he is a fool, but it’s a shame to admit it. It’s easier to live with this woman, raise children together and sometimes cheat for the benefit of men’s health. This will be one of the many manifestations of a man’s love. first pregnancy. Then 9 months and another 1.5-2 months after giving birth, a man without sex. And in general, why did she need sex after, she got what she wanted - she gave birth. At the same time, the woman did not lie. a child, but at the time of sex the male brain did not perceive this information. Moreover, the lady did not specify that sex itself was indifferent to her, but only the result. The man loves children and has respect for the woman, but over time he stopped wanting her as a mistress. Moreover, the wife contributes to this. The same goes for women: she hears my beloved, my only love. He can say these words immediately after orgasm, when dopamine is off the charts. And of course he is not lying and feels this way at a particular moment, he speaks sincerely. But she will think of something in her head and receive the following text: “We will get married, we will live happily, we will have three children, because I love you”! And he meant: “I have never had such a fantastic orgasm with any girl, you are super baby.” Who deceived whom? Nobody deceived anyone! Everyone heard what they wanted to hear, see and perceive with their own understanding of the situation. Conclusion: you are speculating, fantasizing for him/her, you are delusional that you know your partner’s thoughts, habits and desires as your own. And when reality turns out to be different than the one that conflict occurs in your head. How can a family psychologist help? I will teach you a real dialogue with a loved one, and not a dialogue in your head. If I’m not writing very clearly, you can ask your question here or in a personal message, and if it’s convenient, in instant messengers or just call me. Family psychologist-sexologist Vyacheslav Kiselev.8 (977) 391-0984