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Session 26. Valya drew a family of animals. Dad is a monkey, mom is a leopard, two sisters are a giraffe and a bunny. Then I wrote a story about this family. Mom went with the children to the lawn to teach them. And dad went hunting. In the evening, when mom and her daughters returned, they saw that dad had prepared dinner and bought a cake. The children were very happy, and his mother praised him and kissed him. Valya chose the role of the bunny and said on his behalf: “I want everyone to live together happily and not fight. To do this, I need to study well and behave, obey my parents. Mom should take care of everyday life, console, not scold. Sister should be home. Dad earn a lot of money and help mom.” Comments. At this session we talked about responsibility. What can dad be responsible for in a family, what can mom be responsible for, what can sister be responsible for, and what can Valya herself be responsible for. Session 27. I invited Valya to determine the topic of the session herself. She sighed and said that she wanted to talk about her sister. Valentina has claims against her sister. She does not allow her to have flowers in their common room, does not allow her to play on the computer, although her parents bought it for the two of them. She forces me to clean up after the dog all the time, even though it was my sister who asked to have one. V.- I’m watching TV, and she – go, clean it up. I complained to my mother, and she said that my sister is the eldest and you need to listen to her and do what she says. Valya was kind of lethargic, I haven’t seen her like this for a long time. Comments. I thought it was about trespassing. And about family introject (you need to listen to your elders and do what they say). We conducted an experiment on an empty chair with my sister. At first, Valya lived out her anger, shouted at her sister, and argued with her. But as this came to life, strength and energy appeared in the voice. This made me happy. Apparently, the aggression was suppressed for a long time. Sessions 28.29. We carried out work with introject and work on boundaries. They drew the boundaries of each family member. I think that in a family, boundaries are not respected. Just as Vali’s boundaries are not taken into account, so she does not take into account the boundaries of others. Valya really liked this work, she even took the drawing with her. Session 30. Valentina came with her mother very joyful. She told me that dad invited them all to Turkey to relax. She told me how she and her mother dreamed of such a trip, but there was not enough money. And my mother agreed, and they will all go to Turkey together. Mom behaved freely, without the tension that was there when she entered my office earlier. And today, I came to the final session with my daughter. She told me that she started seeing a psychologist. Of course, I was pleasantly surprised. We talked about the fact that many topics were touched upon, worked through, and that positive dynamics were visible. I was very pleased to watch how mother and daughter communicate. I felt satisfied. We ended our hours of therapy by thanking each other. Having hugged Valya goodbye, we parted.