If women only liked handsome or successful men, then the world would have ceased to exist long ago. Nature itself took care of procreation and therefore made sure that every woman had the opportunity to meet “her” man. This drive is based on libido. Freud formulated and substantiated the theory of unconscious drive. And it is he who owns the expression “We fall in love with those with whom we have already met.” And even if a man is “seven spans in the forehead”, super successful and the most beautiful, but if he does not respond to your unconscious, then you will not be able to fall in love with him. Yes, you will be able to treat him well. Yes, you will want to do nice things for him. Yes, you will want to grow old together. But, you will not want him. In every sense of the word. Because his only, but most important, “flaw” will be that he does not correspond to the image of the Inner man. This image begins to form in a girl in early childhood and the main influence on its formation, as you might guess, is her father. The image does not have to be a copy of the father. It rather captures individual traits that are very important for the girl’s psyche: height, timbre of voice, demeanor, figure, individual character traits. Then the features of the first love are mixed into the image, and later - the first sexual partner. For every girl and woman, the image of the Inner Man practically does not change throughout life, it only acquires different accents in different periods of life. One of my clients was attracted to men who burred. She treated them with great inner sympathy. The other is men with strong hands. The third are men with big noses. And these men had every chance of becoming desirable men for these women. How to understand whether this man is “catching” a woman or whether she made her choice consciously? Not every woman is ready to admit that she wants this particular man. Yes, this is not always actualized at first (unlike a man - he always knows whether he wants this woman or not). You need to ask why she liked this man. If a woman begins to list his human qualities or say that he is successful, kind, etc., then she made her choice with her head. If she cannot justify her sympathy and says something like the following: “He is so cool!”, “He is handsome !" “He is very good!”, then most likely it is he, the man who corresponds to her unconscious image. Clue. If you are a woman and you want to touch this man, then this is it - libido! And this man is the one who resonates with your unconscious! If they tell you in direct text “what did you find in him?!”, then this is it!) The unforgettable Anna German Olga Fedoseeva sings about this feeling. Sign up for a consultation here or by phone: 8-921-436-87-03 W/ V/TSelections of my articles: Men's and women's. RelationshipsWomen's self-esteemWomen's self-identityWomen's loneliness