I have one universal answer to this question. Although, of course, in each individual case, there will be many options. But in general, they all come down to one thing - to live in accordance with oneself. Often this process is hampered by various protective mental mechanisms, social pressure, internal conflicts, resistance - everything that is in one way or another connected with contact with oneself and the world around us. And here’s the unpleasant thing - in order to establish contact with your life, to feel it more holistically, you need to change a lot... And for starters, you need conditions in which it will be possible to consider what is stopping a person? For example, such conditions can be found in psychotherapy. The complexity of organizing such conditions lies in the fact that it is not a child who comes to therapy, who can (and not always) be gradually taught something. And a completely developed personality comes, with his own views, perception of life and a huge baggage of life experience (most often difficult and even traumatic). It is quite difficult to “retrain” such a person to live differently. But where is the hope then? If in the space of therapy such a person gains the experience of a different attitude towards himself - a more voluminous, holistic one, then he can begin to relate to himself and his life differently. And the most difficult thing in therapy is that the client will bring to the therapist those methods of relationship that are familiar to him (including manipulating the therapist, where would we be without this?), and the therapist has to perceive all this, contain it and return it to the client in the form "reworked" response. Having gained adequate experience of containing and reflecting oneself in the eyes of the therapist, the client gradually gains access to his own ability to recognize his reality as it is, with less distortion. This is both sad and joyful at the same time. A person becomes more mature internally. And maturity is not much fun, you know. And...this process usually takes several years of regular therapy. It’s worth talking about the setting and regularity separately. It's even more complicated there.