As the practice of the family marathon has shown, life without criticism in the family is not an easy thing) well, what is life, if only I could hold out for a week))) In general, I’ll try in this article to show the advantages of such a life and ways to implement it! there are probably hundreds of seminars and dozens of trainings in which there is an iron rule - participants do not criticize each other, everyone’s opinion is very valuable and important, regardless of experience, status and age! At first it’s difficult: I want to highlight my experience, comment on someone else, demonstrate my intelligence, argue... After such experience, the phrase “truth is born in an argument” amuses me)) Nothing can be born there when one is against the other. But I personally witnessed a huge number of insights that were born in an atmosphere of acceptance of each other, kind attitude and support! Friends won’t let you lie ;) And gradually you realize that it’s so cool when you don’t need to prove anything to anyone, you don’t need to achieve stars and say smart words in order to be noticed, that everyone is, in fact, equal and everyone is important in their own way... and it’s just great that you exist and it’s great that there are others as they are, and all beautiful! In such an environment, people reveal themselves in completely new ways..) Why am I saying this) And to the fact that family is our most basic environment, from where we draw strength and inspiration. But it’s one thing during training to be kind and fluffy once a week, for example))), and another thing in the family, when day after day you are nose to nose with another person with OTHER views on the world (see note about the nature of m and g)... and situations of disagreement and dissatisfaction always arise, when something doesn’t suit you, doesn’t fit, irritates you...... so what, remain silent and pretend that everything is fine?))) This is also possible, but this is a conscious choice technique from the highest family aerobatics (I’ll share it someday) and only those who have mastered the previous levels are allowed to participate in it)))))) So, there is no need to remain silent! We must speak! What can I say - you know, I won’t reveal anything new now)) You need to talk about YOUR feelings! Instead of “You did it badly” - “I don’t like what you did” Instead of “You offended me” - “I was offended” Instead of “ You’re doing everything wrong” - “This doesn’t suit me” Instead of “You hurt me” - “It hurts me” Men will come up with their own version...)) In general, do not shift the responsibility for your feelings to someone else. And then it won’t be criticism, but a story about your condition, and then you give someone else the opportunity to take care of you, and not build a defense. Do you think it’s difficult? Then replace the word “difficult” with the word “unusual” and all that remains is to change the habit - well, you know, it takes 21 days to form a new habit) This skill of “changing words” helped me a lot in learning coaching. If somewhere there is a stopper and it’s difficult, I change the word and everything moves again) If you’re interested, I’ll write about this skill in more detail) Another hint:) When I forget myself and blame my husband for all my sins, after that I try to repeat the same thing with positions of your feelings. This helps us both to take power over the situation)) Let's strive for good)