Have you experienced repeated negative events in your life that you tried in every possible way to change, but nothing worked? And you couldn't understand why. I think yes! Therefore, I want to share with you information that will help you answer this question. In psychology there is the concept of “life scenario”. A life script is a person’s life plan, created by him in childhood under the significant influence of his parents or loved ones. Here are some examples of what it might look like for you today. A love scenario is when you are constantly abandoned or humiliated, or used for selfish purposes, or taken to another plane. Life is when your friends betray you, they humiliate you at work, they take away what you love from you, or you constantly have to fight for someone’s love or friendship. Or you always find yourself in awkward or life-threatening situations, etc. There are hidden attitudes in every scenario. Attitudes are what you think about. For example, “Learn, girl, this is how you have to live”, “Look, son, this is a man’s lot”, “Everything must be perfect”, “It’s important what the neighbors say” “Remember, daughter, men are bastards. They will never understand us . They won’t appreciate it. So just be patient,” “A woman’s job is to work tirelessly. Everyone can rest, a man can sleep, and a woman must wash, do laundry and cook.” “A man should... A woman should... A real mother... A good daughter... A smart girl... A well-mannered child...” “So that everything is like people’s”, “So that it’s no worse than others” “I I can’t have what I want unless I pay for it”, “I can never get what I want most”, etc. The same person may have several script patterns that manifest themselves in different spheres of life. Of course, the script is not something given once and for all. You can free yourself from it and begin to build your life according to your own scenario. According to Eric Berne, “love, war and psychotherapy” can help with this. To change the script yourself, you need to understand what your script is and become aware of it. What does it mean. You need to observe what unfavorable events most often occur in your life. How are you feeling during this period of time? What actions do you take and what do you think? Afterwards, it is important to learn to recognize unambiguous settings. This could be the relationship between parents, or the attitude of parents towards you as a child, or regular statements by parents about life or people. The final stage is the replacement of old installations with new installations. For example, when you remember about men, the following phrase sounds in your head: “Remember, daughter, men are bastards.” At this moment, you need to track your feelings and emotions, observe what you want to do and then form a new attitude. Example: “Men are different, just like women. There are a lot of smart, wise, kind men, and I want and am ready to build relationships.” By realizing and working through more and more unnecessary scenarios each time, you are becoming closer and closer to the life you have always dreamed of, so don’t be afraid.