From the author: For Men and not only...DEDICATED TO THE CONQUERERS OF WOMEN'S HEARTS... Although the modern rhythm of life requires rapid and active action, this may apply to a greater extent to work and business, but not to building harmonious and healthy relationships. This is where you shouldn’t rush. According to Russian statistics for 2010 – 2014. 65% to 80% of marriages result in divorce. There are several main reasons, some of which can be found here and here. But that’s not what we’re talking about now. And this is not a reason to be afraid, but a reason to think. And, having made the right conclusions, understand that relationships also need to be learned, and that you need to take their building seriously and thoughtfully. Only in this case does the couple have a much greater chance of a favorable development of events in terms of building a strong and happy relationship. But let’s move on to specific actions and style of behavior for men at the very beginning of a relationship: communication and acquaintance. After all, before building a relationship, it is necessary to decide on the object of passion itself and, accordingly, develop a strategy for “conquering” it. This is where many controversial issues and questions arise. How to win your chosen one? How to achieve her favor and become happy at the same time, without losing yourself? There are many recommendations and advice on this matter, but there is no universal method and style of behavior for winning girls. But this precisely gives us that very necessary aspect, following which, practically no courtship or “conquest” can fail. So, what is the main secret of such a win-win courtship? Everything is actually quite simple. As much as each girl is unique, courting her should be just as unique. Everything is built on the principle of fulfilling the girl’s own wishes. And here the male half of humanity only needs to connect their attentiveness, memory and ability to listen and, most importantly, HEAR the object of their dreams. Girls themselves most often speak out loud about their desires, needs, wants and dreams. The main thing is to follow the conversation and the girl’s emotions at the same time. She can “casually” pay attention to something and smile at the same time or say that she would like this and that and would like it too. These may be very insignificant little things for a man, but for a girl it’s these little things that are important. And the fact that a man noticed this “little thing” and even fulfilled it is capable of melting a tender girl’s heart. Then we move on to the next stage. One of the deepest needs of a woman is the need not only for love (as most would think), but also for security. What should this mean for a man? Only that by providing a comfortable, trusting atmosphere (both psychologically and physically) when meeting with his chosen one, a man thereby satisfies a woman’s main need. Thus, the girl feels calm and safe every time next to such a man, which will allow her to begin to trust him over time and gradually “open up”. And here we come to another important point: “opening up.” Those. trust your feelings. A man who can and knows how to listen patiently to his girlfriend is worth a lot. And this is not at all difficult, as it might seem at first glance. What is primarily needed from a man here is attention, empathy and participation. In many cases, a man's opinion or decision will not even be required. Just listen. A man who is able to take on the whole gamut of accumulated feelings and unlived emotions of a girl instantly “grows” several times over in her eyes. And, believe me, such a “feat” will provide an invaluable service to the man himself, because... next to such a girl (calm and happy), he will feel constantly needed, loved and loving hero. And this, in turn, satisfies one of the basic needs of a man. But this is a completely different story and about this another time... In the meantime, you can.