From the author: Tatyana Chursina’s book “Human Life” has absorbed and summarized many years of experience as a practicing psychologist, consultant and head of the Center for Humanitarian Technologies, author and presenter of dozens of trainings, the course “The World Begins with You” !”, training programs for trainers on the topic of personal growth, business training, training programs for parents and children. The book contains life revelations and observations that will attract the attention of both psychologists and all those for whom it is important to learn to understand life situations and correctly evaluate their lives. Author: Tatyana Chursina Publisher: Niva, ISBN 5-86456-092-8; 2002 www.cgt.su Human life. Psychotherapy of everyday human life. Series: Psychotherapy of everyday life Author: Tatyana Chursina Publisher: Niva, ISBN 5-86456-092-8; 2002 CONTENTS.Preface for the curious.Preface for professionals.Personality model offered in the Course “The World Starts with You!”Group dynamics.Group goals.Group norms.Phases of group development.Resistance.What is our Course about?What is therapeutic community? - Psychological principles of the therapeutic community. - Ethical principles of the therapeutic community. - Payment for participation. 11. Main topics of the Course “The world begins with you!” - Fathers and children. - The main problems and mistakes of parents in raising children. - The success of human life. - Man and woman. 12. Instead of an afterword. Preface for the curious I'll tell you a story. Beggars were walking along the road. They were blind and wandered from village to village, begging for alms - that’s how they lived. There was a sighted man among them, he walked first and showed them the way. One day on the road they met a traveler on an elephant. The sighted man stopped and spoke to him, asking for directions to the next village. The blind became interested in the large animal, which was breathing loudly and shifting from foot to foot. They asked the traveler to touch the elephant with his hands to imagine what kind of elephant he was. The traveler allowed them, and the beggars fell to the elephant. The one holding the tail said: “An elephant is a long and thin creature!” The one holding his leg said: “An elephant is a big dusty column!” The one holding the ear said: “An elephant is a thin and flexible sheet!” Each of them was right, and each of them was wrong. As they say, a fairy tale is a lie, but there is a hint in it, or rather not a lie, but a metaphor. Replace the word “elephant” with the word “life”, and in place of “beggar” imagine yourself and your friends. And the metaphor becomes reality, and the hint becomes illustration. An illustration of man’s eternal desire to understand and explain the world around him, as well as its misconceptions and mistakes. Any person from early childhood, as soon as the light of consciousness glimmers in his infant brain, begins to comprehend the world in pieces, fragments of reality, constantly trying to fill in the missing details, records them in memory and includes them in his life experience. Receiving impressions in a whole stream, the brain logically establishes cause-and-effect relationships between phenomena, creates a certain model, a construction, which is a mental reflection of reality. This pattern of life is individual for everyone; it continuously grows quantitatively and becomes more complex qualitatively. The brain analyzes this structure and determines the meaning of individual fragments. The result is a picture of the world that a person seeks to comprehend, that is, to give meaning, to answer the question “why?” or “why?” And for this it is necessary to explain the results of the analysis, to interpret their entire set so that all elements are consistently linked with each other. When this is successful to some extent, then meaning is found, as the pinnacle of all explanatory constructions, as the answer to the question “why?” Thus, each of us has our own picture of the world, our own idea of ​​our place in the world, our own interpretations and explanations. That is, everyone has their own theory of life with their own axioms,postulates, evidence, and if you ask anyone about how the world works or something like that, then he will begin to present his theory in the form that he chooses, if it is not offered to him in advance. An individual theory of life is a person’s worldview, which is the fruit of many years of mental work, the result of expended mental and physical strength, the result of life experience. It determines a person’s attitude towards the world, towards other people. Our worldview did not come to each of us so easily and subjectively represents the greatest psychological value. The same as physical existence. Without a worldview, human life is impossible, because it, as a processed and generalized personal (and not only personal) experience, is the life foundation that gives a person the opportunity to plan his actions and predict the result with sufficient accuracy to preserve life, establish a correspondence between the past and the future and etc. If you look at the worldview in the context of the relationship between a person and the society in which he lives, one fundamentally important problem should be noted. At the organismal level, the life of a human being is a combination of physical and mental existence. The bearer of physical existence is our body (physical “I”), and the bearer of our worldview as part of mental life is the human personality (mental “I”). In the framework of human relationships, let's pay attention to the problem of the inviolability of human life and his rights. If someone came up with the idea of ​​changing the structure of my body (for example, swapping the stomach and liver) without my consent, by force, then everyone would consider it obvious a crime, a violation of my right to life, in which there is destruction of the integrity of my body, violation of my physical boundaries (cuts, penetration into the body), gross interference with physical life. This causes people to be justifiably angry and indignant. It is difficult to find a person who is sure that the arrangement of the organs of my body is incorrect and needs to be changed. With the psychic “I”, for example, with the worldview, the situation is completely different. People consider themselves entitled to judge the correctness of each other's worldviews. This in itself is not bad. Comparing your worldview with others and giving them an assessment is simply one of the ways to orient and improve your personality. It's depressing that many people's relationships are a long series of attempts to invade each other's personal space in order to force the other to change some elements of their worldview that are supposedly “obviously wrong.” This behavior, which manifests itself every day in both small things and serious facts, has long become the background of our lives, an unspoken norm. Why is it that almost no one gets indignant if someone imposes an argument on me or otherwise tries to change my worldview, deciding that it is incorrectly formed? Is personal sovereignty and the inviolability of personal boundaries a lesser value than physical inviolability? I recognize the right of any person to have his own idea of ​​life, the right to establish and observe personal sovereignty. The general worldview and specific beliefs of a person are sacred and inviolable, and influencing them through violent intervention, in principle, is a crime against a person. Such interference can be considered the use in communication of such methods of violating personal freedom as distortion of information for the purpose of manipulation, “brainwashing”, direct deception; as psychological pressure (imposed argument, threats, humiliation, deliberate infliction of mental trauma, etc.). Everything would be obviously simple if the worldview were structured as uniformly as the human body. The fact is that physical imperfection and even ugliness are obvious both to its owner and to those around him, and we recognize our own flaws and delusions, even obvious to others, with great difficulty. But with readiness.