Any feelings have their place and it is impossible to feel unconditional love for your child all 24 hours. Especially in the case when he uses foul language, throws everything he can, throws his fists, or the teacher complains about him that he is simply impossible. When a child is in the womb, you often think and imagine that the child will be your whole world, who understands, loves and does everything with you in unison. But he is born with his own world, which can be in confrontation with all family members. Why does this happen? This behavior occurs in children with ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). This is accompanied by upbringing according to the principle “ The child is the main one in the family.” Lack of subordination in the family. Peculiarities of the child’s nervous system, the consequences of pregnancy or childbirth. This is how he is, not meeting expectations. I must admit that the consequence may be disappointment. In addition, as a result of the child’s behavior, other negative feelings arise. There is remorse, a feeling of guilt that I am a bad mother, if I experience such feelings, it means I do not love my child. The reason for this situation? If the child has a neurological diagnosis, then Of course, he also needs medication and psychological correction, and then it is important to accept him for who he is. Perhaps you should think about upbringing in a family, what kind of relationships, is there mutual respect. What to do with feelings? We have the right to different feelings, regardless , what kind of relationship we are in. To admit that sometimes I am helpless and don’t know what to do, I feel anger in response to the child’s inappropriate, wayward behavior, I get tired, I feel sad and angry because the child does not listen to me. It is important that in the family had rules about what was allowed and what was not allowed. Prohibition of insults, both from adults and children. Talk to your child about feelings. I'm angry, I don't like it, I'm sad, I'm offended when you behave like this. Ask him how he feels. Teach your child not to drive himself to anger, but to talk about what he no longer likes at the early stage of dissatisfaction. Cultivate in the child respect, tolerance, justice, hospitality. The feeling of love appears after liberation from negative feelings and getting rid of illusions. Everything is in your hands! Recognize the child’s right to be who he is, despite all your efforts!