A truly close person is someone with whom you can share your loneliness. Not to get rid of it, not to hide, but to divide it. Any good friend who is not overwhelmed by a fit of rage, envy and the like at the moment can rejoice from the heart with you. There are few such people. And you yourself may not be like that for everyone. This is a rare priceless encounter. Meeting with such another, with such loneliness, with such pain that you are able to be close to without calling rescuers. Live, breathe and stay with these difficult givens of others and your own. The temptation is great to speed up the calming process. Especially when a person is dear to you, especially if you love him dearly. The heart aches from powerlessness. I really want to cheer you up, distract you, captivate you, inspire you. The intentions seem good, but are often premature. It is more difficult to let a person live his pain himself. At the same time, without leaving him alone and without dragging him away from his own life. I wonder why we do this? Where are we in a hurry? Do we want to save a person from difficult experiences? Or save yourself from being near them? Is it possible? Yes, if you can save your life. In addition, such attempts can only intensify the pain. Calm comes in those moments when you see that there is a person next to you. He's just there. Although it's not easy at all. To be with you, with you like this. He's not trying to do anything to you. Neither collapse your feelings, nor remake them, nor bring in your own. Maybe the word "friend" comes from the word "other"? Maybe the ability of another to be with you and with your feelings, different from his own at the moment, is perceived by us as friendship?